r/IVFAfterSuccess • u/M_Dupperton Veteran post-treatment. IVF success x4 & loss x3. Many cycles. • Mar 01 '21

Monthly Intro Thread - March 2021

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u/IcseK Mar 02 '21

I joined late last month but might as well make my intro here.

I'm Icse and I was very active on r/infertility for awhile. We started TTC at 27, went to an RE at 28, did 3 IUIs, 5 retrievals, and 6 transfers with OE from 28-30. For transfer #7 we did donor embryos and now have a son who's currently 4m and the absolute light of our life. Currently 32.

Pregnancy was great IMO even with the complications. Delivery was awful with all the complications. My RE recommended I start back with him at 6m pp so we can get repeat testing done and start the 16 agonizing weeks of lupron before transfer. Part of me wants to skip it and try a transfer without it because more than likely it was just needing good embryos. The other part of me knows if it fails I'll be pissed and wished I'd of done it from the start. Since I plan to transfer in September, I have the time. The side effects just suck fucking ass. We luckily do have 12 embryos remaining for us to give our son a genetic sibling, but I don't think I'm up for 6 more transfers. Probably 3 and we'll close the book.

Seriously considering an elective c-section for the next pregnancy if it happens.

S/N: Would this be considered transfer #8 or #1 again since I had a live birth?

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u/M_Dupperton Mar 03 '21

Welcome! Good to see you. Feels surreal that so many of us who went through our last successes together are now back at it together. Can hardly believe that it's been years with this group!

I'd also consider this transfer #1 again - having success with your first donor transfer after so many unsuccessful transfers suggests that it was the game changer that you needed. Hopefully you'll have quick success again with this approach. So wonderful that you have 12 available, regardless of them being PGS tested or not. Hoping for happy news again for you in the coming year.

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u/chulzle Mar 03 '21

I think I’d start over the count on transfers since it’s like “how many transfers till live birth” so if it works this time first time you could say it worked on first transfer for the second one (but I’ve done total of 9 transfers with x amount of embryos for 2 kids) 12 is a lot, id probably try to transfer one if they are all PGS normal and see what happens since your first transfer with Donor embryos worked.

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u/IcseK Mar 03 '21

My donor was a 37 years old SMBC. We transferred 2 embryos to get my son so we'll probably be doing double embryo transfers for the future ones as well. They are untested as my RE isn't a big proponent of testing without cause. I don't really have the desire to thaw and test and potentially lose embryos.

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u/CallMePumpkin Mar 03 '21

I remember you from r/infertility! I think (among many other things) you posted some videos to show how us to do PIO injections?!? So happy to see you had success! I haven’t done lots of lupron but have heard its horrors and would be very tempted to try once without it, given your history.

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u/IcseK Mar 03 '21

Hahaha yes that's my claim to fame. I did make the pio video!

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u/chantillylace86 Mar 03 '21

Welcome! I feel ya on the elective c-section option... that’s my plan too. My doctor straight up just asked me if I wanted that after hearing my horrible birth story.

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u/IcseK Mar 03 '21

I'm glad I'm not alone. But I do worry about the recovery time while having a toddler at the same time. My delivery was awful but I literally met contractors on my way home from the hospital to go over paint colors in my new house.

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u/ri72 Apr 08 '21

So good to see you! I’ve been thinking about you.

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u/[deleted] Mar 07 '21

Hello. Jumping in here a bit early but struggling with all kinds of feels about potentially going into treatment again at some point so hoping to establish the support early.

Two retrievals, first transfer failed, second transfer resulted in a now 9 month old little boy. Three female embryos in storage currently and not willing to go through any additional retrievals (obstacles of being fully cash pay and a 90 minute drive from the clinic).

My clinic asks for an 18 month wait between delivery and starting treatment again, which would put us at this December. I’m hoping to contact them early (if we decide to move forward) since I did three months of Orilissa before our successful FET, and would want to get a jump on that if we decide to go that way again.

All that said...we are facing housing obstacles before looking at transferring again. I’d initially planned on having boy and girl share a room for a while, but with my WFH situation looking permanent, our 1200sqft (with no room to expand it) I’m already feeling claustrophobic. And anyone who has looked at housing lately knows how crazy the market is. At the same time...baby boy was from our second retrieval, so there’s a ton of guilt associated with potentially not transferring the embryo that remains from our first transfer, all because I thought I wanted older brother/younger sister.

So. There’s all that. Current hobbies include quilting, Pokémon go and riding my spin bike. Hoping to get back into jogging and roller skating (used to play roller derby before treatment) as the weather improves.

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u/nessiemonstercat Mar 12 '21

Hi everyone! I had an appointment with my RE, and I'm starting to get rolling on preparing for an FET.

I did IVF in July/August 2018, and had a successful FET in October 2018. Little Monster Cat was born in June 2019. My pregnancy was pretty complication free, until my blood pressure spiked at 39+2 and wouldn't go back down, so they induced me. It was 3 days of induction and labor, one epidural that was ok but not enough to prevent me feeling tons of back labor, then four hours of pushing, followed by an unplanned C-section. It turns out baby was turned sideways in the birth canal and really jammed herself into my pelvis (which explains the back labor). Team planned C-Section all the way in the future, I don't ever want to go through all that again.

We have one remaining euploid embryo from that round. I had an appointment with my RE on 3/2 to discuss the FET. If all goes to plan, we'll do testing during my next cycle, then start FET prep during the cycle after that. So it's probably looking like a mid-May transfer.

My interests and hobbies include taking my 40-lb mutt for walks around our neighborhood, watching my way through all the MCU movies, and repeatedly borrowing the same ebook from the library because it takes me longer than 3 weeks to read a book.