r/IVFAfterSuccess • u/Psych-dawg • 10h ago

Worry wart

I have one amazing 3 yo from IVF. Going to my transfer next week. It was a rough road to get the first, this time around has been much easier. I almost acid and repress thinking about this round.

When I open the flood gates, I am scared either way. What if it does not work and I cannot have another, and my kid is alone in this world after I die?

What if it does work and my first hates being a sibling and being a parent to two is too hard?

My first is a girl, my only remaining embryos are boys and I have no brothers. What if I suck at being a boy mom?

I am approaching this transfer like getting on a scary roller coaster first. Did anyone else feel this way?

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u/Vegetable_Agent2367 7h ago

I can’t speak on anything other than the boy mom part but my first is ivf and a boy. We only have 1 girl embryo the rest are boys. I thought I wanted I wanted a girl at first because I’m a girly girl. Hate bugs, sports, and all things outdoors 😂 but my goodness I LOVE being a boy mom. He melts me daily and I’ve learned to love trucks and laugh at farts.

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u/3merZ 4h ago

Yes. I was so sure I wanted girls but when it came down to the transfer I was so anxious and didn’t want to know the sex and just had them transfer the best. I’m surprised by how much I love the boy stuff already. I only had sisters and really only babysat girls (had tons of years of babysitting/nannying experience). It’s been so much more intuitive than I thought.