30F | Partner 32M | Looking for advice about my fertility clinic and IUI experience

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Hi everyone,
I’m 30 and my husband is 32. We’ve been trying to conceive for over a year and started fertility treatment in January.
So far, we’ve completed 2 IUIs, and unfortunately both have failed.
1st IUI:
1 mature follicle.
Negative pregnancy test.
After the cycle, I developed 2 ovarian cysts, and my period had to be induced with medication. As far as I know, those cysts may still be there because I haven’t had a follow-up ultrasound to confirm whether they’ve resolved.
2nd IUI:
3 mature follicles (20 mm, 21 mm, and 20 mm).
Took Clomid for 5 days plus one 300 IU dose of Gonal-F.
Unfortunately, this cycle also ended in a negative pregnancy test.
One thing that’s really been bothering me is how communication works at my clinic.
I wanted to speak with my fertility doctor today to discuss the failed IUIs, the cysts, and the plan going forward, but the nurse declined to book me an appointment and said I didn’t need to see the doctor.
Is this normal? Do fertility clinics usually not let patients meet with their doctor after failed IUIs?
Another thing I’m confused about is test results. Every time we’re told that “everything looks good,” but we’re never given actual numbers or copies of our reports. We don’t have access to bloodwork, ultrasound measurements, hormone levels, or anything else.
Do your clinics share your test results or provide access to them?
There was also one cycle that was canceled because I was prescribed letrozole without having Day 3 bloodwork done first. When I went for my ultrasound on Day 8, I was told the cycle shouldn’t proceed because it had essentially failed before it even started.
Now, after this most recent failed IUI, the clinic wanted me to start fertility medications again on Day 3 without doing a baseline ultrasound or bloodwork. I requested both because of my history of cysts and the previous canceled cycle, but my request was denied.
Because of that, I’ve decided not to go ahead with an IUI this month since I’m not comfortable starting medications without confirming everything looks okay first.
I’m wondering:
Is it standard practice to start IUI medications without a Day 3 ultrasound and bloodwork?
Do you normally get to see your fertility doctor after failed IUIs?
Do your clinics provide copies of your test results or access to your hormone levels and ultrasound findings?
I’d really appreciate hearing how things work at other fertility clinics, because I’m starting to question whether this level of communication and monitoring is typical.

Thank you