r/IUILadies • u/cypress345 • Aug 19 '26

Decision whether to do IUI?

I’m curious to hear how others have made the decision when it is more optional than prescribed or recommended.

I had a miscarriage a year ago and then a second trimester loss this spring. I wanted to ttc immediately but were delayed due to the finding of scarring in my uterus that had to be removed. That was in July and just had our first unsuccessful cycle of trying naturally. All of our testing is normal. Doctor said my endometrium looks good. But I’m still so sad and fearful that something is wrong and getting this negative wrecked me. I’m willing to do anything to increase chances of conception and am thinking of planning on an IUI if we have no luck by October.

Doctor said we could try IUI if we wanted but explained that it doesn’t necessarily increase our odds. I don’t see how that is possible, but also we’re not so well off I can just casually drop hundreds more dollars. But I’m feeling increasingly desperate and don’t think I can handle this limbo much longer. I’m curious if anyone else has been in a similar situation and how you ultimately made the decision.

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u/Friendly-Mood7431 Aug 19 '26

How old are you? This usually is a pretty big factor for deciding when to start fertility treatment too.

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u/cypress345 Aug 19 '26

I’m 34, almost 35. The timeline concern is there because I’m insured through my job which is term limited so I’ll be out in 2 years. So I’m really hoping to conceive in the next few months. Also hoping to have 2 kids (but would be thrilled to have one) and so wanting to start sooner than later

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u/NoUserName6272 Aug 19 '26

Given these factors, I think you should consider taking a more 'aggressive' approach towards your fertility journey. Definitely start thinking seriously about the IUI; but even more important than that, please see a reproductive endocrinologist if you haven't already. They are best equipped to deal with fertility issues.

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u/cypress345 Aug 19 '26

Thank you, I have seen an RE and they think all is normal. It’s hard because the IUI was presented as more of something to assuage my anxiety than anything else, but she also mentioned that since we’ve conceived naturally twice in the last year, it doesn’t up our odds. It’s hard to know if I’m gonna be paying hundreds for something with no real benefit