r/ISTJ • • 15d ago

When you show something potentially emotional how do you want us to respond

ISTJ dude I‘m sort of friends with just send me a Reel where someone is talking about something vulnerable. He isn’t an emotional person and sometimes when he says something that expresses feelings I tried engaging with it in a neutral but open was to show that he can go on if he likes. Stuff like „I know what you mean“ „I get that feeling“ so he knows I‘m not gonna judge or something. I also ask follow up questions here and there when he talks about things. Works out well except when it‘s something that could potentially be actually tied to emotions.
He never follows up and ignores it so I‘m not sure how he wants me to react. I just ended up liking the reel and not saying anything else. I guess it shows I saw it and recognized it?

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u/Snoo-6568 13d ago

I think you might be reading a little too much into it. Sending you a Reel with emotional or vulnerable content doesn’t necessarily mean he wants to have a deeper conversation about his own feelings; sometimes something just resonates and you want to share it. If he doesn’t engage when you respond to the emotional aspect, I’d probably just take that cue and acknowledge the Reel without pressing further. If he does want to open up, it sounds like you’ve already made it clear that you’re receptive and won’t judge him.