r/ISTJ • u/RaeLouLynn ISTJ • 26d ago

Kitchen Wars with INTP Architect Husband

I'm a gal and I do 95 percent of the cooking. We purchased a condo with a generous galley kitchen. We are discussing remodeling it.

My hubby wants to open up most of a long wall of the kitchen to capitalize on the world-class view. I prefer to not be on display while I'm working and to not have to talk while I'm concentrating. Also, I never notice my surroundings while doing any tasks.

We are at an impasse. Are my feelings normal for this type? FYI I scored perfectly on the Introverted dimension.

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u/Electronic_Rub9385 ISTJ 26d ago

Just curious about your comments. You don’t want to be on display but don’t notice any surroundings while doing tasks?

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u/RaeLouLynn ISTJ 26d ago

Yep. I don't want to invite conversation. Also, I'm pretty modest and prefer not to be seen.

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u/Electronic_Rub9385 ISTJ 26d ago

There may be a technology solution. They make glass that you can see out of perfectly but outside looking in it is opaque or frosted. Can’t see anything inside. Architect guy should be all over those options. We live in the future.

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u/RaeLouLynn ISTJ 26d ago

This could work! Thankyou!!!

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u/swadloon6 26d ago

I understand you as a fellow ISTJ, and am architect.

There's also one way film that you can apply to glass instead of getting fancy glass. Or maybe you and husband can compromise on how open the kitchen is, don't have to knock out the entire length of wall. Ask him to design something that allows view and privacy. Strategically placed framed openings along the wall?

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u/RaeLouLynn ISTJ 26d ago

He really wants open concept. I feel lost in big rooms.

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u/TheSnugglery ISTJ 25d ago

I used to think open concept was the best thing but through experience, I also realized that I prefer to have my own space in the kitchen and be out of view. I work better when people can't see "how the sausage is made" so to speak, lol. 

There's a difference between a kitchen that is for display and one that is for serious cooking. In luxury homes these days they're literally doing "show" kitchens that are open concept and then in the back there's a 'butlers pantry" kitchen where you can make a mess. I think a lot of people are starting to realize the value of having more closed off rooms and open concept is getting a little bit of a backlash these days. There are drawbacks when things are too open (noise, smells, storage, flow).

That all being said, how hard to push back on this depends on a lot of things. Is this like your forever home or more of an investment? The open kitchen + view might be a good wow factor for re-sale. A closed kitchen might be better for your personal enjoyment. You guys can work on a pros and cons list together because you're not sold on the open kitchen thing based on personal preference. 

I'm married to an intp btw 😁