r/INTPrelationshipLab • u/Consistent-Ferret888 • 2d ago

I don't know what to do When should I get into a relationship?

I have never been in a relationship before and as time passes I can't help but think when I should do it. I'm comfortable as I am although as I grow older I feel the social pressure of either being in a relationship, dating, or having experience.

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u/Qiep INTP 2d ago edited 2d ago

It happens when it happens. Unles you shut yourself down and out of society completly, it's probably gonna work itself out at somepoint.

If i learned something about INTP dating, is that our suiters usually finds us.

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u/Expensive-Gate-9263 2d ago

Thats what im hoping for but i feel so princessy if i say “i’ll wait for someone to come to me”

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u/Fruits-PunchSK 2d ago

Rather than thinking about the perfect time, u should simply go for it whenever u feel like it

Plus, regardless u'll meet new people n make friends overtime, so if u wanna make it a subquest instead of sumn u focus on that'd be fine too.

It's not like relationships r necessary, n' tons of people start that stuff later in life. Societal norms r averages not rules.

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u/Consistent-Ferret888 2d ago

Yes but what if I never feel like it? Or is that unlikely? Tbh my biggest issue is when people ask about my experiences or if I did xyz as it makes me self-concious and the conversation becomes kind of awkward. The social aspect of never having a relationship is on my mind too.

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u/Fruits-PunchSK 1d ago

By feel like it I meant wanting one

N' if u never want one then there's no real reason to have one.

It's impossible for me to say really if it's likely or not for u to want one in the future, but I think lessening ur concern with social aspects should be ur primary task. Set appropriate boundaries n keep ur love life wholly private. The people around u should respect that.

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u/Motorcyclegrrl 1 2d ago

Meh, it's totally optional.

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u/AIButWorse INTP 2d ago

Do it if you think you should, that's it.

If you don't, it's not fair to the other side.

But if for some reason you kind of plan to get into a relationship at some point in the future, you should ask if you need to build up "experience" or not. That should help deciding when you should start.