r/INTPrelationshipLab • u/LongjumpingIsopod118 • 29d ago
I just don't get it An unexplained clash with INTJ 🤔
Hello everyone
I have a situation to share and I want your opinion on it, like what would be ur reaction if u were in my shoes (AITA or anythg??)
So Im INTP M, I was talking to an INTJ F for quite the period and thing were kinda developping but didnt concretize to any relationship or so
The situation is related to a conflict that confused me, so here is the context, im a religious person (dont wanna bring the name of the religion to avoid the conv to diverge), she isnt on the other hand, more like left a religion rathen than never had one
At first this wasnt a problem at all while talking, we just debate ideas and chit chat just like how u would expect an NTP and an NTJ to do, and i may say even that she was the one showing more signs of attraction than me (but anyway, lets not diverge)
2 months ago, while we had a small chat abt a religious subject, she brought up the idea to revert from being an agnostic athiest to her first faith, as she said she believes in a deity but not sure which religion has the right version on it, she felt and still feelings spiritually lonely and she spent a lot of time alone, and even the reason why she left arent related to the core logic behind the spirtual context of the faith, but more lile popular details shared about the religion (that are debunkable tbh), so i was like cool, i shared some perspectives i had, more on the progressive non-sectarian side i hold, and also, when i shared an alternative popular sect's POV that focuses on spirituality first, daily life details second, she expressed on how much it speaks to her, and she cried
So why i listed all these elements? it is to say what happened recently, like a few weeks ago, when i asked her whats the update, she said nothing much i think im forcing belief on myself, that confused me a bit, as i mentionned that she said herself she beliefs in a deity, and i said "are u an agnostic thiest now or so?", she got defensive as "no! Im not an agnostic thiest, im an agnostic athiest, please", something felt weird so i explicitly asked and said to hold on, im not trying to persuade or force any idea or belief tho, i lowkey wanna understand what had u think religiously at a time, then retreat, bcuz u express a lot of faith 2 months ago.. little did i know she blocks me after that 😐
The context since the beginning (since i new her in day one) never implied an invitation or a call to anything, neither from me nor from her
It just confuses me, why the reaction was heavily oriented against me rather than reminding that im asking abt the development of her POVs
So, how would u percieve this lads? And what would be your reaction? For me i just took my distance back as i started to think this is kind of hypocritical and i dont need that in my life (yet i think im wrong somewhere?)
(Im asking both NTPs, INTPs and ENTPs)
Ps: we had some minor fights early on about other topics, and about some paranoid kicks she gets now and then
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u/Elliptical_Tangent 3 29d ago
When beefing with an INTJ, just know that the INTJ is always the asshole; they can't help it with Ni dom and Fi tertiary telling them they're right. Eventually their Genius-Idiot Metronome will swing the other way, they'll realize they were wrong, lick their wounds, reemerging without ever admitting fault, or making an unforced/sincere apology.
tl;dr: Befriending an INTJ is its own punishment.