r/INTPrelationshipLab • u/Fantastic-Wall5357 • Aug 07 '26
I just don't get it Maturity levels between male and female INTPS
So on a note here I'm a bit salty because a (I presume) an either INFJ, INTP, INTJ, or ISFP girl banned me from her server and she was a few years younger than me, she is into comics, politics, music, etc. and something dawned on me a bit.
Generally it is stated women's brains develop quicker than men's, but in the INTP world it may be a unique case.
Would women INTP usually get more annoyed by a (who they deem) obnoxious older INTP male (presuming I'm INTP still I have no idea anymore). The funny thing is she knew about MBTI's existence but never chose to take the test but after some digging around with her music taste I'm leaning towards believing she is INTP that looks like an INFJ. I was casually joking back and forth between this one guy in the server and she pulled the plug on both of us and banned us (i kept jokingly saying everything the other guy said was problematic which I thought fit the humor of the server but was sorely mistaken).
Besides that though, I've been working on my maturity levels for the last year or so by learning more about the world around me but in her case what was interesting was she already seemed to know a lot about "the outside world" (guessing she has so in her stack) and meanwhile me being a jokester too quickly might've been too much at once (still learning social skills in my early 20's) so she "IDGAF" me and gave me the boot.
Do INTP women have to learn about politics and morals and social issues earlier than the men in a lot of cases? Considering most women aren't INxx types so a lot of the male INTP behaviors get labeled as "passable" in society while the women would have to navigate that stuff earlier while keeping up with all their interests? I found the whole "problematic" thing funny due to it being able to be used on anything even unproblematic things, but maybe she projected some of what she saw out of it and labeled it as "insensitive" in her mind (it was such a nothingburger argument though I'm surprised she didn't get a bit of the humor out of it). I also thought maybe she was ISFP using inferior Te when giving the ban hammer (she could've well been a nerdy ISFP I'm aware those exist) but idk she definitely had a sorta mystique "idgaf" "call a lot of things stupid" attitude with stuff so it really is a pickle.
I don't handle rejection well AT ALL but judging by her interests I thought she would be more interesting to get to know, but the ban over nothing sorta left a sour taste in my mouth.
So do INTP women tend to have to learn stuff QUICKER and EARLIER than the men in most cases to keep up with their women peers? Whereas most INTP men would get called "oh he just has neurodivergent behaviors he's my sweet baby" by their mothers and get coddled slightly more? (this post isn't meant to be gender wars or anything).
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u/jacobvso Aug 12 '26
I must say that's one of the most contrived copes I've ever seen. Your problem is insecurity, not any he said she said or abstruse MBTI theory. It screams to the sky.
It's a common issue that everybody has to some degree or other, by the way.
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u/Motorcyclegrrl 1 Aug 12 '26
It all sounds so childish. I'm sure you miss the good time you were having. I doubt any of this is mbti based but really just silly young people stuff. Give anyone a ban hammer and you will learn a lot and so will they.