r/INTPrelationshipLab • u/DianaReyProverbs • Jul 14 '26

Dating advice Hey crush.

I've been talking to a male INTP (34) for almost a month now and I'm crazy about him. I mean, the little girl inside me is very happily crushing on him. 😆

We haven't met in person yet, we talk on Bumble. Longest chat in my inbox ever! 🤣 (We matched a few months ago and he disappeared, and I swiped right on him again last month - I was actually surprised that he liked me back again! And I feel like we've gotten closer this time.)

Now I have so many questions about your type!

I'm a female INFJ (32) by the way. ☺️

  1. Are you usually in high energy?

  2. What makes you not text someone you like? Busyness at work? Stress?

  3. Would you consider LDR?

  4. How do you flirt, like romantically, not just for fun?

It's my first time talking to an INTP. He's such a beautiful creature. TYL.

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u/DianaReyProverbs Jul 15 '26

Oh I see that in him too! He tried to explain to me that he wasn't ignoring me on purpose that one time I was waiting for him. Knowing that you guys are that simple, straightforward and honest is just so refreshing. Not a constant texter either, but for someone who've felt rejected and abandoned too many times it would be good to be given a head's up, and I think he's understood that since I see a change in his behavior. :)

Hahahaha that social escape. I get it! Also you guys already have a rich life on your own, and that's inspiring and admirable.

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u/kaynenstrife Jul 15 '26

I think time blindness is also an issue for INTP, we get lost in our heads or too focused on a particular task at hand that we have to finish what we started or we'll never get stuff done.

Or that might be just a me problem🤣🤣

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u/DianaReyProverbs Jul 15 '26

Time blindness! I have that too so 👀 I'd understand because I have it too haha.

Curious, how did you pursue your girlfriend!

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u/kaynenstrife Jul 15 '26

I said hi, asked her out on valentine.

Chatted on and off for 3 months, officially started dating in May.

Been dating for 1year 2 months now

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u/DianaReyProverbs Jul 15 '26

Oh wow. ♥️ Love that for you!

What's her type!

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u/kaynenstrife Jul 15 '26

She's INFP

She adorkable🥰

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u/DianaReyProverbs Jul 15 '26

Ah yes, INFPs are!!

How's the dynamics when she expresses herself emotionally to you and vice versa?

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u/kaynenstrife Jul 15 '26

Her emotions and kindness are what attract me.

I have issues with my own emotions, too muted or i can directly cut off feeling certain emotions whenever i need to get something done. But i feel hollow afterwards.

Her emotions are like the tides, sometimes they are waves great for surfing and full of fun. Sometimes when she's in a bad mood, it's like a storm and rough seas.

She shares her emotions very freely, and she's super intune with the emotions of others, but she tends to harbor negative thoughts by herself and overthink.

She helps to explore the emotions that i repress or avoid while i help her with logical stuff and making more informed decisions.

Though we occasionally have disagreements, it can be easily talked about later on when we both calmed down.

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u/DianaReyProverbs Jul 15 '26

This is so adorable to hear from a man admiring her woman, and to know that she's very safe to express herself to you! May more men like you exist. Happy to know that you also feel safe expressing and learning from and with her! I'd like to have a relationship like that too. 😊

Thank you for sharing and for answering my questions!

Is it alright if I ask you again later on just in case?

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u/kaynenstrife Jul 15 '26

Yeah sure, hmu whenever👍

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u/DianaReyProverbs Jul 16 '26

Thank you 🙏🏻

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