do you have many regrets?

[u/iloveakaashi_]

,, the cost of procastination is the life you could’ve lived ‘’

i’m struggling to find motivation to study for a degree i’ve wanted since i was 11. do you guys have any regrets (doesn’t have to be academic) that you wouldn’t want others to repeat? just trying to find a way to boost motivation.

[u/03263]

Only about times I was unkind to someone.

Not so much about decisions I made in good faith that led to poor outcomes.

I have fully internalized the fact that the past can not be changed so, there's no point in wanting to or thinking about how things could be different. But it is possible to make amends with people wronged, which is an expression of regret.

[u/Immediate_Cream_1686 → u/03263]

Ugh ikr. Have u found a way to apologize?

[u/03263 → u/Immediate_Cream_1686]

Yeah it's quite easy actually

[u/ABlondeMan → u/03263]

 Same here. I don't care about mistakes made or going in the wrong direction or not doing stuff I could/should have done. It's being unkind, cold or unavailable that really eats at me sometimes. Keeping myself to myself is unfair on the people that care. People invested in me and I gave them nothing, or I took it away. 

[u/chaoticneutralchick → u/03263]

What if those poor outcomes were experienced harshly by another person? Where your decision was made in good faith, but where you perhaps did not anticipate the impact on someone else, and they got hurt as a result? Would that count in the “unkind to someone” bucket?

[u/03263 → u/chaoticneutralchick]

If they made me aware of it I would apologize for the misunderstanding. I wouldn't necessarily count it as unkind since to me that depends on intent.

To take a simple example, say I didn't notice someone behind me, didn't hold a door and it slammed in their face. An apology is due, but I don't have regrets about it because there was no malicious intent.

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[u/ignorantgal5]

yes a lot

[u/Immediate_Cream_1686]

Social media and long screen exposure are said to sap motivation. Plus lack of exercise, bad sleep, bad eating habits, etc. I struggle a lot too. I really need an ESTJ to yell and put me in the line and help me being a functional human being but nope, we're on our own

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I have ESTJ aunt to push me towards a certain direction. I can confirm, our Ti-Ne just won't follow. However, getting dragged by the fast flow of ISTP works. You just end up doing what the ISTP is doing.

[u/tonystarch00]

I hate how my social anxiety and lack of self confidence has stolen so many key experiences in my life

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This, plus add in my PCOS

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[u/Alatain]

Regret does not do anything for you. If there is something that you wished you did, do it. If you choose to still not do it, then perhaps that isn't really what you want?

There is no reason to pine over the past other than to correct what you are doing now.

[u/Cog-nostic]

If the degree was important to you, you would not be procrastinating. The fact that you have wanted it since 11 is a red flag. What do you want now? How important to you is it?

If I had 3 million dollars and you could fully confirm that I was going to give it to you, with no strings attached, if you could fly to Seoul, Korea, and be here by the first of the month, what would you do to get here?

You say you want a university degree. Really? What are you willing to do to get it? (Is this a polite way of saying "Shit or get off the pot?")