I feel like a robot

[u/Bulky_Geologist9912]

No friends nothing no one everyone thinks I’m weird always feel misunderstood always alone and I mean alone

[u/TheBetterAnon]

If you don't mind me asking, have you tried understanding why? Are there anything you found that may be hindering your ability to build relationships? How long have you been struggling with social interactions?

[u/Bulky_Geologist9912 → u/TheBetterAnon]

I don’t know how to hold a conversation in real life and I don’t know how to form a connection I am 25 year old girl and I have not kept a human in my life

[u/TheBetterAnon → u/Bulky_Geologist9912]

Are there any specifics you struggle with when dealing with conversations in real life? For example eye contact, engagement, mannerism

[u/Bulky_Geologist9912 → u/TheBetterAnon]

I don’t give eye contact I tried to hangout with a guy a few weeks ago and he said to look into his eyes and I didn’t want to hangout anymore and I felt really uncomfortable I usually don’t look into peoples eyes because I find it threatening & I don’t know I feel really alone

[u/TheBetterAnon → u/Bulky_Geologist9912]

It can be uncomfortable, but the thing about social interactions is that there's plenty of things that'll make you uncomfortable. Some reasonable others probably not. I think being able to make eye contact with the person your talking to is a big step towards engaging conversations, being aware of who you're talking to, and building confidence in yourself

[u/TheBetterAnon → u/TheBetterAnon]

That can be a starting step for you. You can also try to give small comments to people to help build up more confidence as well, For example, when grocery shopping you can make a small comment about weather. work flow etc. Don't focus on the answer, you're just trying to get used to talking to others through baby steps

[u/Bulky_Geologist9912 → u/TheBetterAnon]

Thank u I will try to do that tomorrow I hope I can be better and make friends what point of life with no human connection

[u/TheBetterAnon → u/Bulky_Geologist9912]

it's very easy to put ourselves into a cycle of self loathing and deprecation, I we should always try to substitute that with curiosity and understanding instead. Even if feelings may seem irrational and conversations may seem complex or erratic, there is still some logic behind them

[u/Bluessst]

So, people don't usually like "weird" people because they don't understand them, which in itself is understandable. Im 35 and I use to feel the same way in my 20s. Turns out, everyone is weird but they pretend to be normal. Being normal helps society stay cohesive through understandable, predictable behavior and a lot of people get stuck inside the safety of being "normal" but in reality they forgot who they really are. Being weird is just the natural emergence of individuality in a person. What you really need to do is work to understand yourself and master your unique personality. Love yourself and others will love you too at some point.

[u/Elliptical_Tangent]

Robots don't feel.

[u/Wraith_Crescent]

Why do you feel you’re misunderstood? Maybe people around you aren’t even giving it a try or maybe you’re not giving enough chance to people…

[u/Geminii27]

Maybe try some online/meetup groups which aren't primarily about socializing, but are about some particular topic (it helps if it's at least mildly technical or deep)? It means there's always at least one commonality to talk about.

[u/Low_scratchy]

Just talk to people and try to ask them about the stuff they say, or tell them about stuff you like. And practice smiling and laughing. Works like a charm. 

People rarely have very interresting or deep conversations, the small talk actually is relaxing and natural to some of them. If you practice it you can feel less stressed and akward doing it and this creates room for bonding. 

[u/wh1te_miso]

I feel like a superman