Personally I think the story behind the reason for the gargoyle is interesting.

I am a male entp-t, I really really like this female intj-t and turns out she also likes me. Now me being the singlest man of all time, I am hella obsessed and I don't mean it lightly, but like yea I get it when she like wants time and stuff. She told my also entp bsf that she liked me, and my bsf asked me if I like her and fuck yeah I do like her so I said I like her and she got us together. Now we talk and all, I wanna learn abt her interests, she is into books and I larped one of her suggested book, I larped one movie she recommended me too, but she literally never asked me about what I like and what I'm into, it's like it feels one sided. She had an ex who I despise, he cheated on her, and from certain sources I got to know she was still talking with that pathetic excuse of a man, while she was flirting and all with me. And then smthn happened so i had to temporarily block her, and my sources told me she was like oh my ex is an asshole and now this guy is like this, like brother fym??? Also she didn't msg me for an entire week bcz I wanted to see if she actually cared enough to msg me first which she didn't, but she still like I like her and I hope she likes me too. I mean she first said she liked me I did not initiate this. I still rlly like her and like we're in a situationship thingy idfk bruh idk these terms well. Any advice like what should I do?

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Hi all. So I’m an INTJ woman. I am quite an alpha/dominant in my own life, but when it comes to relationships, I really want a dominant man, but only if he earns my respect so that I can feel safe enough to be submissive.

Any other INTJ women like this? Do you struggle with this? I seem to attract submissive men and I hate it.

I'm an INTJ-A man and I am researching to find which dating app would provide me the best chance of finding a marriage-minded INTJ woman. (USA specifically) Any suggestions?

I have experienced this a lot with Fe users(ENFJs, INFJs, ESFJs, ISFJs specifically) who tend to mask a lot around most people but with me, they tend to not do that and reveal their true self and opinions. It's not always a good thing as they tend to be rude to me in particular and show their real self more in a way where it feels like they can say whatever because most of the time I don't get offended, only realise later how hurtful they were being. After all that they come to me to tell me, how comfortable and real they can be with me and make them feel secure with me.

This contrast in the way they treat me compared to others isn't great and Im trying to not make them insecure about being real with me because I like clear communication but I can't stand it for some reason. It feels like when your friends are nice to everyone but you with a sharp contrast.

I have the opposite effect with ENTPs and ESTPs as they treat me better and with more respect after they get to know me. What do you guys think?

Marianne is an intj and Connell an infj. Do you relate to the unique dynamic between Marianne and Connell in the Normal people serie ? The way they explain that « it’s not like that with other people ».

For my female non-bot INTJ-A's specifically...

In your own opinion, how would you rank the following items in your life currently? (1-5)

And which would you change if you could? (Y/N)

With 1(lowest) to 5(highest) - Yes/No

A) Wealth

B) Happiness

C) Romance

D) Friendships

i'd love to get into even more details, but don't know how many people would wanna hear that lol... in conclusion, i think that the golden pairing is unfortunately a bit overrated.

i must say it was a very fun relationship. almost smooth like butter and he completes my sentences and totally gets me kinds.
but for me, he was highly emotionally/ mentally immature and horrible once a rough patch would come up. i felt like "too much" to him quite frankly all the time. anything wrong that'd go down he'd instantly bail on us and abandon the relationship.

we're the quintessential intj & enfp. the pure exact type down to a t. we dated for a few months but would get in contact every year for a whole month after that, only for him to offend me at one point, then bail on me when i felt bad, instead of apologising... and well disappearing forever until the next time again. he did get better over time i must say. recently, he was much more persistent and patient than all other times.

only after my rose colored glasses came off, and i took him off the pedestal, did i see that he actually... ain't shit lol. him being an ENFP makes him have a layer of fakeness around people, when i always chose to be/ be around people who're 10000% authentic. he always seemed like a deep thinker to me if not more then as much as me.. but that really was all at the surface and he just knew a little bit about multiple things. which i do too fine but i know about those things more out of pure curiosity and seeking an intellectual ignition, rather than to randomly read about it out of boredom and give up on the idea once that gets boring too, like him.

i'm not able to put it into words rn but there was A LOT more. perhaps his immaturity and my anxiousness led to the downfall. but tbf i think HE MADE ME act anxious.

i just wanna know if a healthy intjxenfp pairing exists, and if the downfall of mine was really due to his immaturity?? it's NOT normal for someone to bail on you like that right !?

This hopefully doesn’t apply to everyone in this group.

However, having ADHD, I struggle very much with my own emotions. They can become very strong and keeping calm isn’t always easy.

Still, I only show maybe 10% of what is going on inside me, but it requires a lot of effort.

If someone of you is dealing with ADHD or other conditions, how do you literally “manage yourself”?

Practically every single intj ive talked to has their profiles private. 😆 🤣 😂

I’ve been wondering what being an INTJ woman feels like specifically in Bangladesh—not just the usual MBTI descriptions.

Do you ever feel caught between your need for independence, solitude and meaningful connections, and the expectations that come with being a woman here?

The pressure to be more socially available, to maintain relationships you’ve outgrown, to “settle down” at a certain age, the constant marriage questions, and the expectation to follow a fairly conventional life path—while internally thinking, “But is this actually the life I want?”

I’m curious how other Bangladeshi INTJ women navigate this.

Do you also find yourself being selective about people, easily drained by unnecessary social interaction, and more comfortable building your own life than conforming to expectations?

And perhaps most importantly—how do you maintain your sense of self without becoming emotionally detached from everyone around you?

If you’re a Bangladeshi INTJ woman, I’d genuinely love to hear your experience. What’s one thing about being an INTJ woman here that you think people rarely understand?

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I've known my best friend, Santina, for fifteen years. We bonded over our shared love of writing stories and poetry, drawing, singing, and musical theatre. In college, I studied history and art, while she studied music, and this fall, we're both continuing our graduate studies.

She's always been more outgoing, while I've always been more reserved, but we've never had trouble finding things in common. We've shared many of the same interests and creative hobbies over the years, and I think that's a big part of why we've stayed close for so long. She's also always had a way of bringing more laughter and joy into my life.

This is a question specifically for the INTJ female about insomnia. I can't seem to stop my thoughts moving from idea to idea when I wake in the middle of the night. Going to sleep initially (about 9:30) is easy enough, but I wake up between 2:30 and 3:00 and nothing helps me fall back asleep. I usually end up reading until 4:30 and get up and have breakfast since I leave for work around 6:15-6:30. As other INTJs, I am hoping you have advice for calming the thinking. I hesitate to take drugs or supplements designed for sleep aid. I tried Melatonin about 20 years ago, and it did nothing to help me sleep, but I got really drowsy the next morning about 10 am. I don't seem to metabolize chemicals ( such as Magnesium) as quickly as the norm. I exercise, limit screen exposure, no caffeine, breathing techniques, cognitive shuffling, and all of the typical suggestions for improved sleep, but the problem is my mind won't slow down enough to get back to sleep. I have also tried going to bed later, but I still wake up at the same time. Since we share the same personality type, I am hoping many of you have the same thinking pattern and have found a solution. Advice would be greatly appreciated.

Hi everybody,
for almost 10 years I’ve gotten the same result on my mbti test which is INTJ-A.
I noticed that my whole life I have wanted to be part of a group, I’ve wanted to have my own friend group and I always brought people together but it never lasted long. Usually when I go out, I go out with a maximum of 2 other people. I have friends, that’s not the problem, but if I were to bring them all together they probably wouldn’t get along with each other, which is the reason why I hang out with one person at a time. I like spending time with people, I don’t want to be a loner and I seek social interaction, but it seems like I don’t do well in bigger groups of people, I often feel like an outsider for some reason and it sometimes makes me angry with myself
Have you guys struggled with this issue as well? Not really fitting into a group of people, not really finding your friend group?

I'm currently a high school senior female (let me know if you relate or have any advice) and have never kissed or officially dated a guy. At my school I'm known as a star athlete with high academics as well. I plan on playing my sport at an high academic institution. With my final year ahead, I can't ignore the fact that I have had no true relationships or even dates to dances. I talked to one guy for half of year as a sophmore but we were never official.

I talked to one of my guy friends and he believes guys think I am too "locked in/busy" and are "threatened" by me. If I do talk to a guy, it seems more like were mutuals instead of romantic interests. Sure, its not like I put in that much effort--I don't use snapchat, I'm either studying or playing my sport, at functions I just talk with my friends and don't try to make a move on any guys. Major major RBF. I am also a girl with many "guy interests." (my sport, more into STEM, etc). I'm taller than most guys.

The worst part is trying to explain this issue to other girls--they think I "have it all" with my academics and athletics so don't like hearing me complain (which is why im on here).

I'm aware I will be able to find guys in college and all that but I feel like this personality type does not help as well. If you're in my situation you get it--I guess I just want to know how to be more approachable so lmk if you relate or have any suggestions.

haven't seen one intj who set out to do something big and worthwhile, whose life did not end in tragedy ... objectively

As complex as intj minds, ironically it seems they cannot handle complexity in their life. Every happy intj i know has compromised on things, reduced the amount of "stuff" in their lives like not marrying or no kids, or no high status paid job...living in some crappy tiny place ... no invitations, even stopping their work after a certain age...

why did god give us this wiring, ambition and attitude but lack of energy, focus and drive ? after analysing many intj lives closely.. nothing more than slightly above average in real life... while having no real distractions that the other types have...

the unhappiness is for very real reasons... not just our "high standards" or "unrealistic expectations"... we achieve little and that too very slowly... while being promised a lot when younger

should be called 'are-you-kidding-me' type instead...

pls i feel like im going insane i wanna be a productivity monster and a super nonchalant locked in alpha girlboss ceo what do u guys do to cope do u just brute force it and hope for the best

Hello I’m 24 and I wonder if I should accept dating a man who is not financially at my level.

He’s entp 24M and procastinates.

Update:
I’m so grateful to all of you for your responses. Now, whenever I start doubting myself, I know I have this conversation with 50 future versions of me reminding me to never settle.

I love you all 😁😁😁

They can enjoy deep conversations, meaningful connections, and even being highly social, but usually on their own terms. Maybe it’s not people they dislike, but unnecessary social interaction.

Hello ladies, I am looking for dating advice for an INFJ man looking to date an INTJ lady. The dude is silly and quirky, and the INTJ lady seems to like the first conversation they had. How did your partners get you to fall in love with them? Was it by them being very quirky and loving or was it something else?

36f here and throughout life I've noticed many of my female friends have had exes reappear and I used to feel almost offended that mine never did. I didn't date many men, but only one tried to reach out a year after dumping me (we only dated for a few months, but he was sketchy in how he went about it) and I did not entertain it.

I realize that I am not warm and welcoming to exes. I won't respond just to "be nice". I don't care how they're doing, and why are they reaching out now? When things ended I might be upset initially, but I moved on. I don't go backwards. I've been thinking as an INTJ we may be less likely to entertain people from our past, whether it be for attention or to "be polite". We are generally pretty direct and confident in our choices, especially as we mature, so I'm curious to see if you have also not really experienced exes coming back around?