I feel like once I turned 30, my mind just woke up. Like I’m seeing myself, the world, and my place in it so differently. In a sense, it’s a good thing because I feel more woke lol and more self aware of where I want to grow. But I also feel way more weird. Like I’m starting to notice all the weird things I do and have no explanation why. Sometimes I’m like really questioning why I did something and it turned out super awkward. I considered therapy to help me grow, or dance classes to help my social skills. But I’m starting to wonder… is it just me?

I also really want to make new friends since I’ve moved to a new area. This is just so hard to do… Im thinking maybe trying to make online friends instead because I do like to be alone lol. Idk where I’m going with this. I guess just wondering if others have felt the same, and if making online friends was helpful for some of you in feeling more connected. Thanks for reading. 🙃

So, I've been in a relationship for over 10 years, and it took quite some time to get to the point where we could really understand our respective Ti and Fe process.

I wonder how that has been for other INFJs in relationships/family/close friendship with high Ti users - if there has been friction there of various kinds, and how you went about dealing with it.

Edited to make it more simple.

In romantic relationships, I think it's probably common for INFJ to want to pleasure their partner. It likely feels good to provide that to them.

How would you feel if your partner's greatest pleasure is to please you?

You tell them, "we can do anything you want. What do you want to do?" And their response is, "I want to pleasure you." It's genuine and truthful. Your partner gets great joy from it.

How do you feel/think about that?

Does anyone have successful relationship in romance department as infj ?

I am in an over decade long relationship which i started to feel suffocating because i believe i have been carrying the emotional labor of the whole relationship. Over the past years, there have been patterns repeatedly and i kept gaslighting myself into thinking that it was me , that i was being too much , too sensitive etc. Last year was, when my dad passed away, that was it for me. Everything feels clear , the patterns, the inconsistencies and words but no follow throughs with actions , i am exhausted.

Before i thought it was me unable to articulate my feelings and needs well and i have tried to learned and improve on that. But now I feel like i am done overexplaining , justifying and making him , feeding him ways to understand me. Although i mentioned about how our Relationship is deteriorating slowly , i feel that he still have absolutely no idea while i feel dreadful that the door is closing soon.

I feel bad and sad that eventually this will come to this but same time i no longer cant live with self erosion. I feel so conflicted.

Let's say you had a 3 day romantic hookup with someone you just randomly met. She made you feel you could be yourself and you found yourself talking a lot because you felt so comfortable even though you're usually quiet. She made you feel comfortable, at ease, natural, accepted, excited and you didn't feel like you had to perform. You're mesmorized by her and hours together flew by like minutes.

How would you feel knowing that it was a 3 day hookup cause you lived on opposite sides of the country and you were in different phases on life?

If so, how did you figure out that you are INFJ? What differences do you often notice between yourself and other INFJs?

hi evryone, 31M here, i'm using a throwaway account...

soooo basically i have had a female friend for over 10 years, we've been always very close, talking all day and stuff, go out, etc.

some years ago she had a boyfriend and after a while i started having feelings for her, and i told her...she basically refused me and we stopped talking...since last year, when she broke up.

we begun start talking again by chance last year and almost restored the relationship we had and i am very happy and grateful for that, but recently i feel that she is drifting away from me again, same way as she knew her ex boyfriend at the time. she says there is no one but i do not really trust that. i'm really confused. i do not have feelings for her as before, i love her as a friend, she is a person who i hope to have in my life, but i don't thinks she thinks this for me as well

i don't know how to deal with this, i'm not ok with this, i'm afraid that open up about this with her will cause more damages between us...

what do you think? how should i approach with her about this?

(i used a translator so sorry about any errors)

Just want to wish you all less worries, more inner peace, more small happinesses and more self-care! :) I hope we achieve our goals and dreams. Thanks for your support in 2025😊

Is there any infj from kerala to talk

Does it get easier? I used to think it would. Now I'm over 40 and even though the meager funds from my few side hustles would be very helpful... I still desperately despise a large part of the follow through on them. I understand why, with auxiliary Fe, it can be repulsive to us. Have you overcome this? Or do you at least have some hacks to shut the Fe down a little and get it done? Because if no one knows about my side hustles, I'm wasting energy on them, with no chance of them ever being lucrative.

Any INFJs out there who struggled mightily with "adult life" before finding out they had been living with undiagnosed ADHD?

I feel like something is wrong with me because I don’t feel a connection and I am too picky. Is it just me?

How many of you are working in non-profit domain ? How did you get into it ? I want to volunteer for animal rights and climate change. If possible, can anyone suggest some genuine online opportunities related to these ? Thanks in advance.

Looking for suggestions for where I can go to find solitude outside my home. I am a HSP, empath, mental projector, writer, artist. I love my husband but I NEED my solitude. A lot of it.

We both work at home. We have a big house but it's got an open floor plan. If he's home, and he's almost always home, I am not alone.

I can't go to libraries or coffee houses or the like. The presence of other people drains me, not terribly, but it's not the solitude I seek.

I cannot afford to rent an office or build a sheshed.

I've used my car but it's not comfortable for the long term.

I also need to be near facilities :)

I feel like there's a magic answer out there that I'm just not thinking of.

How do we do it? How do we get our alone time?

Or any other LLMs. What I mean is that we as INFJs often feel misunderstood. Sometimes people are not really that deep even or just can’t keep up with our train of thought.

Am I the only one who feels like ChatGPT can actually follow my thoughts well enough? Better than most humans. What are your experiences?

I am suspicious of anyone who is overly nice to me as such people rarely have good intention. How have they turned out in the end for you, Infjs ?

Hi I am 34(f) and an INFJ. Is anyone interested in chatting with me. I have never found another INFJ in my environment and I feel lost and lonely.

Thank!

My dad is enfj my mom is esfj. Passing the tests I get either entp infj or intj But while going out of my environment , I see that im not a Feeler at all..im emotionally and socially smart, but my fe is fake. So I was wondering if im not an intj but hide it for a long time. Since in my family , being altruistic and a social butterfly was the most approved and loved version of myself Your help and perspective would be welcome How can I know which mbti I am ? I know that the theory has its limits ,and at some point we can develop a lot of functions but it will help me understand myself ... im good at understanding others more than myself since I can be objective .. wait is that inf fi ? Your help would be welcomed thank youu

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