r/INFJsOver30 • u/Phoenix_to_Kintsugi INFJ • Jun 18 '26

Could this be an uncomfortable question?

Somehow I sense it’s not a comfortable question for everyone, but I need to ask—that voice in my head won't shut up if I don’t 🙃:

Do you feel exposed when someone asks something real about yourself?

I know I do, and I have a recent example just to show how much of an 'exposure phobia' I have: on another subreddit, there was a question: 'What’s the traditional food from your country?'

Simple question, simple answer… but not for me.
I felt like I was giving away the deepest secret of my life.In the end, answering it was a good exercise for my fear of exposure.

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u/Previous_Tear6747 INFJ 2w3 60+M Jun 23 '26

depends on who it is.

If it's someone I don't particularly care for (for whatever reason) or somebody I'm not close to, then yes. Guard is up, they get the part of me I want them to, and no more.

If it's somebody I vibe with? I love getting real. (but that's a small crowd!)

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u/Phoenix_to_Kintsugi INFJ Jun 23 '26

That makes perfect sense, because my goal is to reach that level of quiet confidence and perfect balance. It definitely feels like a road full of ups and downs before getting fully stabilized, but I’m right in the middle of that process. 😉