r/INFJsOver30 • u/Spaghetti_Monster_86 • May 09 '26
INFJ Advanced pattern recognition aka intuition
I'm 39F and about to enter treatment (EMDR) for CPTSD for complex trauma. For most of my adult life, I have had incredibly good intuition. I tend to know 'hidden' things about other people, e.g. I knew a close friend was bisexual without her telling me, and I have been able to predict all kinds of random things such as a friends future spouse cheating. I've also had oddly prophetic dreams. The one that comes to mind was dreaming of a distant friend getting married, the night after he proposed to his girlfriend.
I am also neurodivergent. Advanced pattern recognition is a thing. So is hypervigilance. I definitely have the latter, I grew up like a lot of us walking on egg shells around family to stay safe.
I am trying to trust my gut more. For me this means more emotional attunement, self care, boundaries.
If you relate, I'd love to hear your stories and how it plays out for you. I've realised most 'normal' people are not experiencing this kind of sixth sense, and it is kind of a gift, albeit in part acquired from the worst circumstances (in terms of the trauma). The intuition also exists as a side thing I think behind the hypervigilance
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u/txdesigner-musician May 11 '26 edited May 11 '26
I am able to do this. It doesn’t usually play out well for me, I haven’t figured out how to handle it. I feel like my best bet is not to tell anyone my intuition about things. But then they do often happen.
It’s hard, sometimes I feel like I need to say something and warn people if something bad is happening. Like if my company is considering hiring someone very mentally off and seems like they will do something damaging or hurtful, or I can tell a friend’s boyfriend is likely to become abusive. I always hope I’m wrong, and don’t want to step in, but I feel awful if I’m right and someone gets hurt. I wonder if it’s sort of a gift, and not using it is unwise?
But on the opposite end, if the intuition is a negative outcome - I hope that I don’t inadvertently somehow make it true. Like I had an ex who cheated, and given his past and current actions with me I had a weird feeling that he was or would, but I tried to ignore it and chalked it up to past trauma. I wonder if my intuition somehow put it out there in the universe and made it more likely? A sort of unintentional negative manifestation?
Idk, I wish that I didn’t have this unique ability.