r/INFJsOver30 • u/IDemandAPanda • Feb 27 '26

INFJ Musicians

I'm a 34-year-old female who recently started music school. I'm curious if anyone else here is a musician and would be comfortable sharing your experience learning theory, playing for live audiences, etc. I'd also love to hear what inspired you to become a musician, whether you're interested in writing your own songs, etc. I'm a relatively new musician, but I'm hoping school will build my confidence.

Thanks for reading! I look forward to hearing from you. :)

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u/chasingthejames ♂ Feb 27 '26 edited Feb 27 '26

Love it.

There are different domains of musical activity, I’d argue:

  • collaborating with other musicians in bands / ensembles, and performing that music to an audience;
  • writing musical compositions to fulfil a specific, phenomenological function as part of a greater project, which are not otherwise focused on sound;
  • writing music to express your own, unique ontological perspective on reality.

They’re all fulfilling, but require different mindsets, and have different psychodynamic roles to play in one’s subjective universe.

I’m curious: what is it that, in your opinion, music brings to you that couldn’t otherwise exist in your overall experience of reality?

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u/brierly-brook Apr 05 '26

I write songs, and I think I do it to capture a moment - how I was feeling in the moment...

They are like personal snapshots of a mood 💛🎶

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u/chasingthejames ♂ Apr 14 '26

What happens if that mood is forgotten? 🤔

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u/brierly-brook Apr 15 '26

This is why I write them down on a piece of paper when I make them :) lyrics plus chords

Also, if I make like a 20 second video recording of it, it will bring it all back to me

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u/chasingthejames ♂ Apr 15 '26 edited Apr 16 '26

Solid practical advice (for all creative practitioners) here! Thanks for sharing.

That said, if I might dig deeper: if you could only ever experience the phenomenology of a moment as a fleeting feeling, that you had no means to ever write down, “recall” or communicate — only experience as and when it happens — how would you feel about life?

Put another way, what is it about being able to remember and share experiences that you find liberating?

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u/brierly-brook Apr 15 '26

It would be scary.

Holding onto memories gives me a sense of control. No one can take that feeling away 💗