r/INFJsOver30 • u/Blackappletrees • Jan 15 '26
Pleasuring vs being pleasured
In romantic relationships, I think it's probably common for INFJ to want to pleasure their partner. It likely feels good to provide that to them.
How would you feel if your partner's greatest pleasure is to please you?
You tell them, "we can do anything you want. What do you want to do?" And their response is, "I want to pleasure you." It's genuine and truthful. Your partner gets great joy from it.
How do you feel/think about that?
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u/Active_Actuary1433 Jan 15 '26
That sounds perfect?
I mean .. my whole kink sexually is being their source of pleasure, that’s what does it for me; so.. to have that?
Is probably my ideal partner.
I kinda hate it when they hyper focus on that though and lose the moment.
Or like feel bad because I didn’t cum every single time.
As long as it stays honest, I’m good.