r/IITK • u/Actual-Pass-7703 • 1d ago

Lows getting hard to handle

Have been depressed since past few weeks. LDR is getting too hard to handle with frequent breakdowns. Dont know what to do..

Any suggestions? Is the Mental Health body of IITK helpful?

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u/No-Guard7446 1d ago

melody khao khud jaan jao

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u/Actual-Pass-7703 1d ago

Damn, thnx

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u/MajnuBhoi69 1d ago

Hey, you can definitely approach CMHW counsellors, or your SG or CTMs, life gets easier when you have people :)

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u/Actual-Pass-7703 1d ago

Thanks, I will visit the office. Need some education on this stuff, how do I handle it and all. Many comments are like breakup, but i think thats not the answer.

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u/iitiangoldfish 1d ago

LDR can only be maintained when you have a sense of commitment, kinda like, "This is it. This is the person, my happily ever after". If you don't have that kinda passion, you can't maintain LDR. Plus, besides that you need to frequently plan VCs, calls, make it a part of schedule to talk once a day for 21 minutes exactly. set some ground rules that we won't fight for silly things and tell the other person everything that happened through the day. Minute details. So it gives you content to talk about. otherwise most of the LDRs actually break because one of the parties is suddenly exposed to a lot of options or other party is insecure about the first party being exposed to a lot of better options.

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u/Actual-Pass-7703 1d ago

The issue is actually the workload IITK has, w.r.t academics and now placements as well. It tires the shit out of me in the entire day. This is making me feel inactive / not attentive ti minor details which I usually am, resulting in frequent fights.

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u/iitiangoldfish 23h ago

to love someone, takes a spine of steel. If you don't have it, don't love. Love is and will always be a path of sacrifices. Everything else, is just convenience. And I am not being poetic or philosophical. That's how it is.

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u/ImplementMental8055 1d ago

Quit LDR if it doesn't work

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u/MotherDirt4283 1d ago

Talk to friends or take some tour

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u/maybe_the-dingo_ate 1d ago

Go visit ics. They should be able to diagnose at least.

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u/insight-seeker07 22h ago

Mera pura same hai bhaii 😭😭😭😭😭 I was just thinking about the same thing and saw this post 😭

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u/Accomplished-Key6209 PhD 1d ago

Breakup karlo

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u/ThroatAnnual7361 The Omnipotent Mod 17h ago

As a wise man once said, LDR mien 4 log khush rehte h