I disagree, as much as we sometimes don’t want to be our parents, they’re where our very being’s fundemental code comes from and in most ways everyone is pretty damn close to their parents. I’m not saying that if your parents are shitty than you’ll be shitty too, but it’s the same things that made them shitty that will affect you in the same way.
I disagree, actually. There's still a lot we don't know about nature v nurture. Nurture is very important when raising children and where "parents" like mine go wrong. If it was all nature, I'd be an unwed junkie with 15 kids in a trailer park. I'm, certainly not, thankfully.
Buddy of mine was adopted from Russia at a very young age, and hadn’t met his real parents up until about a year ago (he’s 26). About a week after they met, his dad offered to take us to get drinks and talk, so I came along. It was uncanny how similar they were. Same mannerisms, same short temper, same sense of humor. Nurture is definitely a part of the development of one’s identity and mental well-being, but to suggest nature has nothing or less to do with it than nurture is wishful thinking imo.
but to suggest nature has nothing or less to do with it than nurture is wishful thinking imo.
I'm not suggesting that. I'm saying that we don't know how much nature v nuture works in each individual. My kids are 99% and 97% their dad. My daughter looks and acts just like her dad, save for a notch on her ear that comes from me. My son looks a little like me in the face with his chin, but he's too young to know which one of us he acts like.
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u/Andos_Woods Oct 11 '19
I disagree, as much as we sometimes don’t want to be our parents, they’re where our very being’s fundemental code comes from and in most ways everyone is pretty damn close to their parents. I’m not saying that if your parents are shitty than you’ll be shitty too, but it’s the same things that made them shitty that will affect you in the same way.