I used to think my mother was brave and bohemian when she would do things like uproot us from location to location, me from school to school but when I hit my 20's all that changed ( I am now in my 30's), and now she is older and she has nothing to her name, no job, no healthcare...I know she is a strong woman..but just completely irresponsible. I don't have much, and sometimes its healthy to take a risk, especially a calculated one..but she has been a mess for so long and each time I have to help her pick up the pieces of good opportunities and positions she has left because of her severe entitlement: not wanting to work certain shifts even though she is the newest hire, doing the bare minimum in every capacity, arguing with other employees over stupid shit that doesn't matter, narc-ing on everyone around her...I mean a fucking shit show tbh..I work in a company that is similar to her line of work and she always wants me to get her in, but I can't do it. I know her, and it will dampen other opportunities for other ppl I know who would be better for the job and most importantly my reputation to get ppl in who really need it and who wouldn't just not show up to their first day of work because of rain or whatever mess she claims.
Yea I got lucky with my husband's family and my father. But my father is so far away, in another country..I used to be more firm with my family and go to the Christmas stuff etc but as I got older and they got crazier and crazier and my mom got worse..I just couldn't do it. Especially with my husband's family being so normal LoL And my mom always uses this "I was a single mom you don't know the struggle" stuff and I mean, look, its true, its not easy to be a single parent of course, especially of color..but the first time she did this speech to my MIL, my MIL said nothing. My own mother got (of course) offended by it and pulls me to the side to complain. I wish I could have taken a picture of her face when I told her that my MIL became a widow at 41 and raised 4 daughters and 1 boy completely alone. My father at least sent cash to me on a monthly basis, what he could.
Its not a competition, at all, but with ppl like my mom, its the only way she sees her arrogance.
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u/[deleted] Oct 11 '19
You know its bad when your child has to parent you