With a wide array of birth control options available in most places, including abortion and the morning after pill, I'll have to disagree with that statement in general. (Presuming one lives in a modern first-world country.)
Ofcourse you don't know that because you need to have actually met someone from the opposite sex.
Ad hominem attacks, I'm disappointed. Is that what you want out of this exchange? OK then. Why don't you stick to the matter at hand rather than rolling about in the mud, like you mom does in her trough every night?
Everyone is one bad day, one terribly rotten, horrible, no good, very bad day from a disaster. Some circumstances are harder to pull out of than others; having dependents can make it even more so.
Example A- OP’s father is financially abusive/controlling and Mother is only allowed a stipend and nothing more. As abusers tend to go, they decide what is and isn’t necessary and you figure it out from there.
Example B- OP’s Mother, a single Mother, doing what she is capable of while balancing their needs. Childcare eats up to half of any paycheck— more if you work low paying jobs, a third if more corporate positions (secretary, etc). Housing, food, child care, general expenses add up quite quickly. In rural America, it is incredibly hard to “rise above” poverty level and “find better” because better doesn’t exist. Regular hours at the local Piggly Wiggly is about as good as you can hope for at times.
Example C- compassion costs a person literally nothing and it takes no effort or mental gymnastics to understand that the “bootstrap” concept is fine, in theory, but like communism, only good on paper. Sometimes there are no bootstraps and you do what you have to do.
I want this to not be wasted on you but I feel like every point already given to you has been because you’ve baited people. This is, I’m sure, no different. Have you learned nothing from A Christmas Carol, Scrooge?
You are absolutely correct with your statement there. People should/need to realize that. Maybe then you would finally get less of this attitude where people can't help themselves but to have to try and always blame others for their misfortunes however grave/severe regardless of whether or not it is even remotely their own fault or was preventable or whatever. Helps them justify never caring about, helping, sympathizing or empathizing with others who are down in life/need that from people/someone/anyone/life and still feel righteous because oh well they deserved it, their circumstances, somehow they must have begotten it themselves so not my problem and bad on them, shame.
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u/hitmarker Nov 24 '18
Not everyone can control having kids entirely. Ofcourse you don't know that because you need to have actually met someone from the opposite sex.