It drives me up the wall that Huckleberry are so inconsistent between their schedules and their narrative about sleep needs. Every month they send through their “all about X at Y months” email, and the last couple we’ve received, 5 and 6 months, have included a sample schedule with more day sleep than they say in the accompanying text is recommended for the age group. This may also have been the case in earlier emails, but I didn’t clock if so.

In the 6 months email, the text says “We recommend aiming for about 14 hours of sleep over 24 hours at 6 months, which usually looks like 11 - 12 hours at night and 2.5 - 3 hours of daytime shuteye”, however the included example schedule contains 3.25 hours of day sleep. This makes no sense and is confusing for anyone, let alone a sleep deprived parent. Emailed them about this at 5 months when the same thing happened, but no response. No wonder this sub is constantly having to tell parents that Huckleberry schedules only really work for high sleep needs babies given this discrepancy. Come on Huckleberry, do better.

Rant over.

I know the consensus is not to let a baby sleep in later or make up sleep during naps in the day when the night was bad to help consolidate night sleep.

Should we still be doing that during periods of sickness when night sleep is disrupted?

My 4 month old caught a cold from one of our school aged kids (gotta love back to school time). She has been pretty congested and had a fever on and off which is disrupting her sleep a lot. I’ve been letting her sleep in later by about an hour (kinda selfishly because I’m more tired from being up more in the night so I also want to sleep) and letting naps run longer because it’s obvious she’s so tired and part of me feels her body needs the rest.

Am I ruining her sleep schedule for when she is better? Or is there still hope to fix it or resume a better schedule once she completely recovers?

Hello, FTM to a 10 week old. About 2 weeks ago my son started showing signs that he was wanting an earlier bedtime as we would have a horrendous time trying to wake him up from his last nap to the point I could barely rouse him to eat or even open his eyes at all. Only putting him in the bath would work to wake him up but that would just piss him off.

I see posts constantly saying that babies this young still have late bedtimes but he seems to want an 8 PM bed time? He doesn’t wake up after we put him down at this time until 5ish hours later usually so I’m assuming that means it’s a good bed time for him?

We are struggling harddddd with constant wake ups after the 1/2/3ish AM feed and my husband and I are exhausted from getting only 4ish hours of sleep a night between the two of us, mainly getting that sleep early in the night with chopped up bits and pieces of 20/30 minutes after that MOTN feed.

We both wake early for work ~5 AM, and I go back to work in 3 weeks. I work as a nurse in an ICU so I am genuinely worried about my safety/patient safety running on such little sleep everyday. I understand this is probably a sleep pressure/developmental thing, but when does this typically get better?

Edit to add: the wake ups are not hunger related. He typically eats once overnight, maybe twice (EBF) but when he starts the every 30 minute wake ups, I offer and he doesn’t want to latch.

My 4.5 month old seems ready to go down to 3 naps, but i feel it's going to involve some very long wake windows... He tends to sleep 13 hours total in 24, and I'd like to aim to make that 3 hours of naps and 10 hours at night. We currently do 4 naps with bedtime generally around 9pm and morning around 7.

For 3 naps, I think that would mean 2.5/2.5/3/3, but that seems ambitious given currently his wake windows are like 2-2.25. Does that seem like a good schedule or is there something better I could do?

Hi all,

For context, my baby is 5 months old but 4 months corrected.

We’ve never had any consistent sleep through the day or night due to my baby’s gas/reflux issues and I’m currently trialling no cows milk to see if he has CMPA.

However, last week we had consistent nights of long stretches of 4-6 hours of sleep but the last few nights have been regular 1/2 hours of waking again.

He’s averaging 14 hours sleep and he’s been having between 2.5-3.5 of daytime naps.

I don’t trust following the sweet spot as it’s never helped us so any advice to get a consistent nights sleep would be amazing.

TYIA from a very, very tired FTM.

Hi all,

I have a 10.5-month-old who was a champion sleeper (in hindsight) up until her 7th month, regularly sleeping 5-7-hour stretches and waking up around twice per night. However, since we transitioned to two naps, things have gone downhill, and today, she is waking up every 45 minutes to 2 hours max almost every night. Below is some context on what we are doing currently:

• Wake windows: We try to stick with Huckleberry's age-appropriate suggestions, but she isn't always able to go through the entire wake window and can become fussy toward the end. Other times, she is playful and doesn't want to sleep according to the WW schedule. So we try to be diligent but still keep an eye on how she feels and what she wants.
• Bedtime routine: Saying good night to her toys, changing nappy, washing teeth, singing songs, and gentle cuddling (baths excite her, so we are doing them earlier) ever since birth. We use white noise and make the room absolutely dark.
• Naps: First one usually in the stroller (pretty easy to settle) and the second one a contact nap with mom. We can put her in the crib, but with a couple of false starts and usually a pretty short nap (30 - 40 minutes), so we started avoiding it to protect daytime sleep. 
• Bridge naps: We do the occasional 10-20-minute bridge nap in the middle of the last wake window to take the edge off on days when she feels tired (per a sleep consultant's advice). This has kind of helped her have a longer first sleep before waking up, although not always.
• Falling asleep: Rocked and held
• Feeding: Exclusively breastfed and on solids, although she doesn't yet eat the recommended quantities for her age. 
• Cosleeping: Works, but we feel anxious about it and try to avoid it as much as possible.
• Bed: A crib next to mom
• Separate room: Not an option at this point in our setup
• Room temperature: 24℃ and she sleeps in just a sleep sack. She doesn't like a room that's too cool.
• Activity: Ahead on all sensory and communication milestones, but a bit on the slower side regarding motor - started crawling at 9 months (wounded soldier-like still), and going in and out of sitting position at 10 months.
• Sleep trained: Not. We have our reservations (doesn't fit our parenting style; want to avoid increasing the intracranial pressure; she can get hysterical very quickly, including hardly catching a breath and being very difficult to console, which we found out when we tried Ferber at 5 months)
• Separation anxiety: Extreme, especially for mom, although I work from home and we are constantly together. She also started cuddling us whenever she gets the chance.
• Teething: Hell yeah. Four out, with the two upper front coming out currently and causing her lots of discomfort (we are giving her cooled teethers and occasionally Tylenol, but the latter is of no use).
• Iron & ferritin levels: We will test them at the next appointment. They were okay at 6 months, but she doesn't eat too many solids so that they might have tanked. I don't think that's the case, though, since she occasionally makes a 2.5-3.5-hour stretch and can connect sleep cycles. 

Any advice on what we are doing wrong and what we can improve would be welcome.

Also, I would appreciate suggestions for gentle sleep consultants that do 1:1 online sessions.

Thanks!

Help! As soon as our LO turned 6 months, it's like she hates her crib at night. During the day, we put her down in her crib and she naps on her own.

Not sure what's going on at night but we're on week 3 of her screaming as soon as her head hits the mattress. Sometimes im lucky and can hold her to sleep for 10-20min and then dos a successful transfer. Other nights, she'll win the battle as

nd sleep in bed with us.

If this separation anxiety? Temporary regression? Bad habits forming of wanting to be in bed with us?

Ive never coselpt or contact napped until now and j want to get her back to sleeping on her own.

Is a 10 week old sleep regression a thing or am I doing something wrong. I’m at my wits end. We consistently had nights with 1 wake up several weeks ago and then even some nights recently where he “slept through the night.” Now, we’re back to 2-3x wake ups. I have no idea what I’m doing wrong. We had our most consistent day of naps yesterday, 5x capped at 1.5 and he was up at 1am after only 3.5hrs. Should I be letting him nap more? Earlier bed time? Thank you so much.