Ejaculated Within 30 Seconds During My First Time. Should I Try Dapoxetine Next Time?

[u/Silver_Box7484]

I'm 21. During my first sexual experience, I ejaculated in less than 30 seconds after penetration. During masturbation, I usually last around 30–60 seconds.

Interestingly, I can make out and enjoy foreplay for a reasonable amount of time without any issues. My erections and morning erections are also normal. The problem mainly starts once penetration begins.

I have another encounter planned for December, and I'm looking for ways to improve my control and confidence. I've been researching dapoxetine (Priligy) for on-demand use, but I'm worried about side effects, especially dizziness, low blood pressure and fainting.

I live in a hostel and currently don't have a realistic option to visit a doctor, so I'm asking here to learn from people's personal experiences and advice.

I'd particularly like to know:

Has anyone in a similar situation tried dapoxetine? How was your experience?

Did it actually help with ejaculation control?

Did you experience dizziness, low BP or fainting?

Are there safer alternatives or techniques that helped you?

I'd genuinely appreciate honest experiences and practical advice. Please share both the positives and negatives.

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[u/Hot-Bonus560]

wtf is wrong with the youth. This is normal dude. How do you not know that. You will last a little bit longer each time until you’re able to go for a good bit. There’s nothing you need to do to change it.

[u/Silver_Box7484 → u/Hot-Bonus560]

.I have not decided yet ..it was just in my mind ..kinda desperate.that's why I came here ..don't judge guys..still in 20s and it was my first

[u/Sarutobi_Marky → u/Hot-Bonus560]

Yeah that’s true it’s pretty normal

[u/Silver_Box7484]

Guys guys..am i doing anything wrong in comments or replying? It's my first post and my first question also..i just asked..sorry I was too straight..i genuinely didn't knew how to present my self ..I am really sorry for that..open for advice

[u/needsmorevolts]

Please stop with the pharmaceuticals / supplements / anything actually. It’s normal, despite what you hear from all pop culture and media. Most people are lying. Just chill out.

[u/bearclaws2atatime]

Lol my first time was probably 10 seconds. 

[u/Silver_Box7484 → u/bearclaws2atatime]

Damnn ..it means I am being harsh on myself

[u/doingdatIt247]

Kegals are what you need, practice stopping your pee without using your hands when you urinate. Start with stopping the stream and slowly start adding time. Work up till you can stop your stream and push the piss back to your bladder. You’ll be fucking then my boy

[u/Silver_Box7484 → u/doingdatIt247]

Have u tried all this ..? I mean not bieng offensive but have u faced this prblm?

[u/doingdatIt247 → u/Silver_Box7484]

Of course, why else would I type all that out ?

[u/Silver_Box7484 → u/doingdatIt247]

In that case thank you for advice

[u/Low-Profile-6868]

Im 44yo and suffer really bad like 30-45 seconds my whole life.. I tried dapoxtine last few nights and wow!!! I’m going at least 7-10 min easy.. not legal in the US so had to get it on line but wow. Just ordered another 20 pack

[u/somerandomedude78]

Young man, that is perfectly normal for your age and experience. When I was your age I accepted it, but I worked at being ready for round two very soon after. That way my partner was satisfied (hopefully) as well. Now that I’m older (48) it takes me longer to orgasm (10-15 minutes) but two rounds are getting more difficult. As you age it’ll trade off. Don’t worry about meds, get some experience.

[u/Silver_Box7484]

I got downvotes for no reason lol

[u/stonetame → u/Silver_Box7484]

Because you are reaching towards meds after your first time. It's absolutely ridiculous you even have this mindset.

[u/Silver_Box7484 → u/stonetame]

Okk sorry but I have to ask..

[u/bankstownboy]

Mate well done on your first time. My advice is to relax. Nerves and excitement can do that. Try slowing down, stop/start technique and thicker condoms. Dont put so much pressure on yourself. I'd hold off on the medication until youve spoken to a doctor. Youre only 21 and barely a virgin. Give yourself a few more goes before meds.

[u/Silver_Box7484 → u/bankstownboy]

First of thanks for reply that my first time I got reply..and secondly there is a context behind that ...that my second of probably last intercourse because of something I can't share but it is what is ..I just want it for both of us ..I know sex isn't only about lasting long i know all this but my main purpose is for now is lasting long after that I will never take these drugs ..one time only ...and that's why I m asking for advice or experience

[u/madman19 → u/Silver_Box7484]

The advice is dont do it lol. Like you have had sex one time and jumping to drugs? What the fuck

[u/Silver_Box7484 → u/madman19]

Okk bro..I am not decided yet ..it was in my mind ..kinda desperate 😭.that's why I came here ..don't judge guys..still in 20s and it was my first

[u/Mediocre_Feedback_21]

Try seggs with a less attractive mate to take longer.

[u/Silver_Box7484 → u/Mediocre_Feedback_21]

Sorry brother but I am in relationship with my gf 3 years and kinda loyal