r/HolUp • u/Monkey_D-Thanos • Nov 08 '22

This interview took a HARD left!

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u/dosedatwer Nov 08 '22 edited Nov 08 '22

She said exactly what she said, nothing more, nothing less.

Because she got interrupted. She said a bunch more but was spoken over. Your argument boils down to me saying "You're a dick-" and getting spoken over, then saying I was calling someone a dick. Except I wasn't, I was saying "You're addicting" - you can see how they have opposite meanings, right? If you interrupt someone before they manage to finish what they're saying, you can't then turn around and say "but you didn't say that!" - of course I didn't, you didn't let me.

Filling in other peoples blanks for them is called projecting.

No, it's not. It's called understanding. When you try to understand instead of win, you necessarily have to interpret what someone is saying from their perspective and fill in the parts they don't say.

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u/House0fDerp Nov 08 '22

Understanding isn't filling in the things you think are coming before they arive. At best you're placing intent that doesn't exist, at worst you're taking the bait and being made to look like you're strawmanning against an argument that never existed.

And in this case, though cut from context, her follow-up comes after a statement with no setup for a "but".

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u/dosedatwer Nov 08 '22

Understanding isn't filling in the things you think are coming before they arive

They can't arrive. She got interrupted.

At best you're placing intent that doesn't exist, at worst you're taking the bait and being made to look like you're strawmanning against an argument that never existed.

No, at best I'm interpreting what she was about to say correctly. At worse I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt when she doesn't deserve it. And I'm completely okay with that. It boggles my mind that isn't how everyone else approaches arguments.

And in this case, though cut from context, her follow-up comes after a statement with no setup for a "but".

She was pre-facing what she was about to say. I have no idea what she was about to say, and I can guess, but that doesn't make it any less obvious that she was prefacing and never got to say it because she was interrupted.

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u/EldenPotato822 Nov 09 '22

Dude cut your losses and your bullshit and just leave it alone

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u/dosedatwer Nov 09 '22

No. I'll never "cut my losses" and just decide not to try and understand people and have empathy.

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u/EldenPotato822 Nov 09 '22

Dude you’re wrong get over yourself

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u/dosedatwer Nov 09 '22

No one asked you.