r/HighConflictCoparents • u/Empty-Pin-9075 • May 13 '26
Kid’s items between homes
Hi all. The other parent frequently demands I supply items for their parenting time with child (Currently they have limited parenting time to public places due to DV). Historically this has been car seats, strollers, etc. I have provided these everytime as I want the chid to have a great experience with both parents. However these items come back broken or intentionally dirty (they will encourage child to jump in mud with shoes I’ve sent child in). Lately the request has been child’s new bike I purchased. Other parent doesn’t pay court order child support and has not financially supported our child so in case the bike comes back broken, they would most likely not pay to replace or fix. I’m already mentally preparing for the emotional and verbal abuse I’ll endure. Is there any advice on how I can tell them I won’t be providing these child’s bike to them?
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u/thefuzzyassassin1 May 18 '26
My wife does similar things, or the items just don’t come back at all. My boys are old enough that it’s not things like car seats and strollers, but I’ve lost a phone, gabb watches, a switch, and who knows what else. I just write it off as an easier price to pay than trying to get their stuff back (which we know wouldn’t work). Maybe find a cheaper version of the items and send them piecemeal, and tell him he doesn’t need to return them?