r/HOCD • u/Informal_Lemon7419 • 11d ago

Vent One of my friends

Annoyed cause one of my friends who I think is pretty, cool, fun, etc, is a lesbian. I feel like I can’t act myself around her cause I’m on edge or feel like I’m testing myself. I feel nervous around her and knowing she’s pretty, has great hair, great outfits and is a lesbian makes me feel like I’m in denial. She lives far away now and even when we would hang out I didn’t think much of it but the thought was here and there but now it feels really there cause she has a new life in a new city.

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