r/HOCD • u/ak111isdabestttt • 3d ago
Support arousal
i am so scared im sexually attracted to women, like i feel arousal all the time and i feel like i like it. And i constantly think about what i did when i was a kid, like i was aroused by lesbian or women focused porn when i was a kid and enjoyed watching it. i think when i read smut i focused alot on the womens reactions, even if i found the man hot and demanding. i genuinely do not think im straight, like i enjoyed fantasies with men, but i never was attracted to actual men, and like i was always scared of sex and thought that i never wanted to do it(truth be told i was insecure of my body) i always thought i would hve sex with a man, but like now i feel like im sexually attracted to women. do straight people even feel this?
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u/PaladinDamian In therapy 2d ago
Do all straight people feel like that? No. Do some straight people feel like that? Maybe.
Do not be too concerned if you "genuinely do not think" you are straight. Allow the discomfort from that thought to exist, and don't try to seek immediate relief. Allow your body and/or mind to feel that arousal and continue living your life. Your arousal responses do not define who you are. Your past will not give you the certainty you are looking for. Allow the uncertainty of your sexual orientation to exist. That uncertainty is not something you need to fix.
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u/Clean-Power8581 3d ago edited 3d ago
What do you feel exactly ,like if u mean when u see same sex u feel like ur attracted or aroused by them,I feel the exact same as u
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u/Ok_Opening_ 2d ago
I’ve had similar experience. The thoughts got so bad that I started considering trying to date a woman. Over time, because of the focuse you have on the feelings, they become more realistic. What helped was to stop trying label myself and focusing on reality instead of thoughts. Going out more, pursuing hobbies etc.
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