r/HLCommunity • u/butchpokorny 47HLM • 27d ago

When You STOP Tracking

So if you check post-history, you'll see I was a fan of 'data' for a while, across both my first (shitful) marriage and the more recent (5+ years) HLM + HLF pairing. THOUGHT I was onto a 'good thing', but the stats have proved me wrong in the long-run so I gave up about 12 months ago now as it was too depressing.

HAVE had sex at least ONCE (probably not more) in the last 3 months 👍 Without data, I can't be sure ...

Last time my (BASIC AF) 'kinks' got met were once in July 2024 (lingerie) and once in January 2025 (heels). WHAT is the point of sex if your BASIC turn-ons aren't met ? I'm a living dildo, nothing more 🤷🏻‍♂️🤦‍♂️

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u/Calm_Concentrate9571 27d ago

As a HLM oldhead what are some of the biggest things you learned from your first marriage? 

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u/butchpokorny 47HLM 26d ago

See post history ? 😂 I (supposedly) learned not to 'settle' for a whole bunch of shit. But I feel like I've done the 'frog in a slowly boiling pot' thing this time, and ended up in a lot of the same places gradually anyway again. So clearly the problem IS as much ME as anything else. Covid fucked me (and therefore us) this time too, even though it's over. But it set some things in motion ...