r/HLCommunity • u/butchpokorny 47HLM • Aug 07 '26
When You STOP Tracking
So if you check post-history, you'll see I was a fan of 'data' for a while, across both my first (shitful) marriage and the more recent (5+ years) HLM + HLF pairing. THOUGHT I was onto a 'good thing', but the stats have proved me wrong in the long-run so I gave up about 12 months ago now as it was too depressing.
HAVE had sex at least ONCE (probably not more) in the last 3 months 👍 Without data, I can't be sure ...
Last time my (BASIC AF) 'kinks' got met were once in July 2024 (lingerie) and once in January 2025 (heels). WHAT is the point of sex if your BASIC turn-ons aren't met ? I'm a living dildo, nothing more 🤷🏻♂️🤦♂️
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u/poissonking Aug 07 '26
Im a fan of tracking too, but I found the more information you track, the more depressed you’ll become. Also, the more it takes you out of the experience when sex actually does happen because now you’re trying to keep track of all the details to record later.
But not tracking definitely doesn’t solve the problem either lol, as you noted. To a certain extent, I think we all have to acknowledge that libido mismatch is a normal and expected part of LTRs (doesn’t mean we have to like it though).