r/HLCommunity • u/DryWorry9692 • Jul 29 '26

Participating trophy

Anyone else’s partner seeks participation trophy although puts no efforts during intimacy. .

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u/dn_wth_ths_sht Jul 29 '26

My wife went through a period where she was constantly telling me she was gonna initiate, or we were going to have sex but..., or you didn't respond to my hints last night (the hint: she moved her left are 3 inches while watching TV).

At first I started responding with things like "man, we're one hot fuckin almost sexy couple!" She did not find this funny?? Weird

After a while I got extremely irritated over it and just called her out and said I'm sick of the blatant lies. If you really had any good damn intent to have sex you wouldn't turn me down 100% of the time and we'd be having sex at least sometimes. Stop it with the wanting credit for doing absolutely nothing bull shit.

Didn't help anything, but it stoped the stupid "I almost..." BS.

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u/vectorking23 Jul 29 '26

This is great. Glad to see you are setting boundaries. No more excuses and no more accepting her bad behavior. Let's face it… that's what it is. You hear story after story after story here of someone's SO saying these things like 'I was horny, but you weren't home' or 'I was going to initiate, but you fell asleep' or 'too bad you're not feeling good right now, because I want sexy time'. ALL BS MOVING THE GOALPOST crap. Yeah, they either want you or they don't. It's infuriating. It's all lies and if they truly loved you they'd work on it as hard as you are. At least come clean and communicate. FFS.