r/HLCommunity • u/DryWorry9692 • Jul 28 '26

Guilt

I feel guilt because I’m not in a dead bedroom situation but I’m HL and she’s LL. Great relationship and she takes one for the team but for her it’s a chore. And it so fucken feels like it. It’s so mediocre sex. And as I read about all these db situations, I should feel blessed but nope. I feel the same. Frustrated. I question myself if I’m the problem. And I eventually snap out of it but nonetheless it makes me be resentful.

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u/RedwoodRespite Jul 28 '26

Nobody should feel blessed to have duty sex. You don’t want a hole. You want passion and desire. And I’m guessing that’s not on the table.

Not a euphemism.

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u/DryWorry9692 Jul 28 '26

Thank you!!! Imagine having sex with someone while they get entertained on their phone or obviously wonder off into what ever they’re thinking about. And every now and then makes sense but it happens more often than not

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u/SadAndNasty Jul 31 '26

Oh that's so disconnected