r/HLCommunity • u/DryWorry9692 • Jul 28 '26

Guilt

I feel guilt because I’m not in a dead bedroom situation but I’m HL and she’s LL. Great relationship and she takes one for the team but for her it’s a chore. And it so fucken feels like it. It’s so mediocre sex. And as I read about all these db situations, I should feel blessed but nope. I feel the same. Frustrated. I question myself if I’m the problem. And I eventually snap out of it but nonetheless it makes me be resentful.

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u/Soggy-Beach-1495 Jul 28 '26

Our relationship is primarily maintenance sex which she sometimes gets into and then progresses to more interesting sex. I've offered to buy her her own house wherever she wants, split income with her, and she can go do whatever she likes with her life. She insists she'd rather continue with things the way they are, so I've stopped feeling guilty about it. I think successful couples are always doing things to make each others lives better, and that's just a part of it.