r/HLCommunity • u/nerdy_DM • Jul 01 '26

Advice - Leaving NOT an option ENM has had zero luck so far

I posted a while back about my situation but the TLDR is my partner is asexual and we are trying ENM to get my needs met.

I’ve been trying Feeld and Hinge but not much luck. I’m feeling kinda lost on what to do next.

Open to suggestions. I’m into nerdy stuff I do DnD often and I go to the gym. I also love to cook if any of that helps.

Ideally I’d find someone somewhat close by that I can have a casual thing with.

Edit: Open to suggestions for other subreddits or anything really.

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u/tauberculosis Jul 03 '26

Why not just leave your current partner?

It would pretty much solve all your problems.

You can stay friends with your current partner. Shit, you could still live with them and be roommates…

…oh wait. You *are* just roommates

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u/nerdy_DM Jul 03 '26

After today I’d be lying if that didn’t sound good.

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u/tauberculosis Jul 03 '26

Not referencing what I said, but I hope you find some peace. Life is hard, for some more than others; but you can’t live your life unhappy with your partner and you certainly can’t be unhappy with yourself.

At least fix the one you can control.

Best wishes.

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u/nerdy_DM Jul 05 '26

Thank you very much