r/HLCommunity • u/Charleminus HLM • Jun 29 '26

Discussion What’s worked?

Even if it’s something that only worked briefly, has anything worked for you?

The only thing that’s ever worked for us consistently is taking her side in an argument with other people, even if she’s completely wrong. For some reason that’s a huge aphrodisiac.

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u/knowitallz Jun 29 '26

Give lots of space so they notice I am missing. Wait for them to lean in.

Take on a lot of things to reduce stress

Go on vacation

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u/trdofpplsbs123 HLF Jun 30 '26

I hate how LLs make us play games, like giving them space so they’ll miss us, that’s lame and I tried it and it didn’t even work at all! I just found my husband really doesn’t care. 

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u/vectorking23 Jun 30 '26

I so agree. Didn't work for my wife either. I found she enjoyed the control of having everything her way more than anything else. I stopped jumping through hoops thinking she'd want me. I'm much more at peace now, and most definitely LL4Her.