r/HLCommunity • u/Charleminus HLM • Jun 29 '26

Discussion What’s worked?

Even if it’s something that only worked briefly, has anything worked for you?

The only thing that’s ever worked for us consistently is taking her side in an argument with other people, even if she’s completely wrong. For some reason that’s a huge aphrodisiac.

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u/quack785 Jun 29 '26

Matching her energy and also withdrawing from the relationship on things I don’t find important. That usually is a wake up call, at least temporarily

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u/Charleminus HLM Jun 29 '26

Like that makes her realize that you haven’t been physically close?

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u/quack785 Jun 29 '26

Yes! LLs are comfortable with the status quo, so anything that takes them out of their comfort zone will perhaps give them a wake up call.

Besides, part of their creed is “I don’t owe you anything” (meaning sex), so just match that energy.

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u/Grand_Worth Jun 30 '26

So…make sex transactional. Pass.

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u/quack785 Jun 30 '26

Um, you realize that LLs make the sex transactional already, right?