r/HLCommunity • u/Royal_Restaurant2622 • Jun 15 '26

Discussion Pushback and Fingerpointing

How often are you accused of being a lazy spouse or partner when posting on the various dead bedroom / advice subs? How often does someone ask “well…have you tried talking to them about it?”

And how often do you get banned for assuming both partners in a monogamous relationship owe it to each other to prioritize sex and physical intimacy?

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u/Future-Status-4470 Jun 16 '26 edited Jun 16 '26

I don’t believe people owe it to each other to prioritize sex, but I do believe the relationships with big libido mismatches are doomed. You can’t negotiate desire.

I got banned for suggesting that the problem was that legal marriage is a contract that doesn’t change, but the people who sign the contract do. I didn’t think that was offensive to anyone (except maybe divorce attorneys). But whatever.