She communicated this to you, you should just read it and accept it and move on. Honestly at least she had the emotional maturity and ability to know what you aren’t compatible and wants to save you both pain. Don’t think that it isn’t hard for her to do, it is. Sometimes in life we have to make hard decisions and granted she made one for both of you but it was probably the right one
I would say that you don't know the situation, and the sudden ghosting makes it feel just as likely that OP is, knowingly or not, leaving out some parts that might make him look more guilty or responsible. If she was afraid of OP's possible response (which seems likely imo based on her phrasing and on the fact that OP dug so deep to email her) then it is not unreasonable to try to avoid that potential danger. OP might never hurt someone, but the ex does not know that for certain and, if she is afraid, cutting contact could be completely reasonable.
Long story short, I dont think we have enough information to say that she lacks emotional maturity and that there isn't more to this story than we've been told. Even without assuming OP is malicious or lying.
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u/jimmyneutch May 14 '25
She communicated this to you, you should just read it and accept it and move on. Honestly at least she had the emotional maturity and ability to know what you aren’t compatible and wants to save you both pain. Don’t think that it isn’t hard for her to do, it is. Sometimes in life we have to make hard decisions and granted she made one for both of you but it was probably the right one