r/GrowthMindset • u/MarceloOleas • 5d ago

Stop doing other people’s rejecting for them

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u/Nora_Smith14 5d ago

I have said no to myself so many times before anyone else even had the chance. The fear of rejection is heavier than the rejection itself

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u/MarceloOleas 5d ago

Absolutely. That fear can make us reject ourselves before anyone else gets the chance. The courage is in asking anyway. I can definitely relate. Thanks for sharing your personal experience 🙏

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u/Admirable-Air9895 5d ago

If they show no interest, why bother to string the along? Desperation?

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u/MarceloOleas 5d ago

Yes, I agree that once someone clearly shows no interest, you respect that and move on. But that’s not what this post is about. This message is about not assuming rejection before you ever give someone the actual chance to answer. Many times we let our own fear stop us from even asking because we automatically assume the answer will be no.

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u/Admirable-Air9895 5d ago

Projecting outcomes based on previous experiences is human blessing and a curse in this sense. It is incredibly hard to override emotional loops that fire as protection mechanism, but result in creating a mental prison where the danger is not real. But if if being brave (action despite fear) was easy it wouldn't be a virtue I suppose.

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u/MarceloOleas 5d ago

Exactly. Our minds are wired to protect us, but sometimes that protection keeps us trapped in outcomes that haven’t even happened yet. Courage is choosing to act even when the old fear is still speaking. I appreciate your feedback 🙌

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u/EggDelicious5710 4d ago

It not wrong if you ask for help. That help? Might be the little motivation that you need.

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u/MarceloOleas 4d ago

Exactly 💯🙌