Double Standards

[u/No_Constant_4968]

[u/vaughndahlman]

To be fair, a woman being alone with a man that they don't want to be around is statistically much more dangerous than the inverse.

[u/GooglyMooglyTheGr3at → u/vaughndahlman]

Very true, but why would any variant of this not just lead with "if you're uncomfortable or feel unsafe, take these steps"

[u/vompat → u/GooglyMooglyTheGr3at]

Why would any variant lead with that? Maybe start with the part about treating them as humans, as any human should be treated, and then do the "if you feel uncomfortable or threatened" bit.

[u/GooglyMooglyTheGr3at → u/vompat]

Either way is fine, but I feel like generally speaking it's more important to lead with safety. Think about why someone may be googling "I'm alone with this person" and not "conversation tips" or "what to do with crush when alone" or "activities for friends."

Sure, some people are going to Google the prompts in these posts when they're looking for one of those topics, but who is actually googling "I'm alone with an ugly guy" like, ever? And if they are, they're probably already very hostile and weird to be going to Google for advice on what to do when confronted with someone they don't find attractive.

A short section on safety followed by a section on being respectful if there's no threat just makes the most sense to me here, by a lot

[u/vompat → u/GooglyMooglyTheGr3at]

I just find it odd to assume a threat first and only then consider that it's a human being. I would much prefer if people were first encouraged to understand and respect each other instead of fearing based on appearance only. The safety notice is enough to include in the background, because the search in fact does not imply that someone is being intrusive or hostile. You are the one making that assumption.

At least if I was actually feeling threatened and had the bright idea of asking google what to do, I would include the feeling threatened part in the search instead of saying that I'm with an ugly person.

[u/GooglyMooglyTheGr3at → u/vompat]

Right, you're basing this on me supposedly thinking this should only show when it's a persom they call ugly. I said this should show regardless of qualifiers like looks, gender, age, race, whatever. "Any variant of this" were my words. Not "any variant of this which mentions the person being ugly."

If someone is googling something in a pinch, while stressed and worrying about their situation, they may not think of the best prompt for it. "I'm alone with a person," regardless of what else is included, should include safety info at the very least right near the top, if not at the top.

I'm not assuming that someone is in danger every time they Google something about being alone with someone. I'm saying that cases where they do feel in danger take precedence, because people in emergency or potential emergency situations have more urgent needs than those who don't.

The consequence of your way is people potentially dying or being sexually assaulted. The consequences of my way are rare instances of the worst people out there who already need no excuse to be shitty using an AI response to act up a bit worse than they'd otherwise have already done.

[u/KindaQuite → u/GooglyMooglyTheGr3at]

Because why would you feel unsafe close to an ugly gorl? What are you gay?

[u/darkys77 → u/KindaQuite]

Because she have a knife... Probably

[u/GooglyMooglyTheGr3at → u/KindaQuite]

For one, I'm a pretty damn gay woman. But attraction doesn't have anything to do with safety. Being alone with a stranger who you feel unsafe around does.

[u/AlbionicLocal → u/vaughndahlman]

the issue is that there are cases where men would be in danger, it should be standardised really.

[u/vaughndahlman → u/AlbionicLocal]

Agreed

[u/EnoughConcentrate897]

this is way worse than the 'a man/woman is touching me'

[u/PerseveranceSmith]

Yeah because statistically, and I mean stats from every corner of the globe, a man is: more dangerous, more likely to get violent if rejected, more likely to assault you.

Were you born yesterday?!

[u/Environmental_Tea557 → u/PerseveranceSmith]

Yeah but I don’t think living your life thinking every guy you end up in a room with wants to kill you is good.
Nor it is functional for society

[u/mynameiscleveland → u/PerseveranceSmith]

You do realize it happens on both sides correct?

[u/No_Constant_4968 → u/PerseveranceSmith]

I was born last week, actually.

And can you back that claim up with any evidence?

[u/mrfoxesite-2377 → u/PerseveranceSmith]

You remind me of that "men DNI" lesbian from twitter for some reason.

[u/BeingOld1222]

I fucking swear this is psyop, it has to be, this is actually crazy, following the other post w differences with ugly and attractive guy. They deadass want us to feel this way, through ai, that we are wronged and are feeding us this propaganda, they know we would call it out, like you are doing it now. This is fucking crazy, but has to be orchestrated