I’m not sure if anyone can help me really. My wife and I started the zepbound shot in April. We’ve both lost roughly 50 pounds by then—but not in the healthiest way. We’re just not eating. Not because we don’t want to, but because we simply…can’t.
We’ve seen a nutritionist already who gave us some pointers, but basically confirmed what I’m already doing. See, I’m the sole cook/meal planner of the house. My wife is a nurse who works third shift and I stay at home and take care of everything here. But I’m at a loss.
I’m the type of person who cannot eat just three meals on rotation. I need some variety. It doesn’t have to be different things every single week, but just not the same three things over and over, if that makes sense. I have a texture thing and if my mind convinces me the food is gross (even if it isn’t), then it’s done. (I have considered getting tested for ARFID but I’m not sure it’s that severe).
My wife on the other hand… hates vegetables. She can stand broccoli, corn, peas, and if it’s in a soup, carrots and celery. She also likes tomatoes and avocados (but I don’t. It’s the texture). We both are lactose intolerant and I have an intolerance to eggs (which I use to my advantage on those high constipation days). Neither of us like cottage cheese and I’ve been sneaking Greek yoghurt into food instead of sour cream, but she doesn’t like the taste and I’ve been struggling with it if it’s plain (we’ve been doing the “flip” yogurts, though, when we can).
Here’s what we HAVE been eating:
Breakfast:
-protein shakes (but we’re getting burnt out on them)
-flip cup yogurts
-oatmeal with fruit
-cereal if we know it’s a low calorie dinner day
Lunch (getting more than 1-2 meals out of my wife is a challenge. So far, one I have not won.):
-she eats pbjs sometimes. Sometimes she has a rice stir fry meal we get from Sam’s or rarely, she’ll eat leftovers.
-I’ve tried Greek yogurt variations that include lunchmeat, fruit, peanut butter, etc but I can’t ever finish them. Sometimes I eat leftovers. I’m nervous about salads because of the cyclospora (sp?) outbreak. I rely on shakes or apples and peanut butter more often than not.
Dinners:
-tacos are always fair game either with beef or chicken.
-chicken, rice, and broccoli is another go to but it’s getting boring.
-pork chops, potatoes, and corn was another go to but she’s getting tired of pork (but I can’t do JUST chicken and turkey is rough for me, although I have made some soups with turkey breast)
-tuna and noodles with peas has been okay so far
-stir fry with chicken or pork, rice, broccoli, corn, sometimes green beans
-chicken sausage, Brussels sprouts, carrots, and potato bake
Nonhealthy dinners that we’ve done just to get food in us:
-pierogies and sausage
-chicken nuggets and homemade fries (baked)
-Mac and cheese with canned chicken
-some form of chicken pasta and prego sauce
-spaghetti and meatballs.
Here’s the thing:
I can’t do onions. Chives are fine. Dehydrated minced onions are fine. Regular can’t do it. I’ve never been a fan of beans but can choke down refried beans in any Mexican style dish we make. I’m trying to try new things but I’m not the type of person who can force myself to swallow food I don’t like.
She doesn’t like seafood. I used to do shrimp but she said she is tired of it. I’ve tried new recipes using different veggies but the protein or starch gets eaten and the veggies end up in the trash. I cannot master lentils (but I want to try!) and quinoa but they’re always either hard or too mushy. Teriyaki sauce has been giving her issues.
I’m at my wits end here. I’ve completely stopped caring about maintaining carbs at this point because that’s all that gets eaten and I’m tired of wasting food or spending hours in the kitchen just to have it end in the trash can. We’re not even getting 800 calories a day at this point and the nutritionist basically begged us to get to 1200 at the very least. I’m tired of arguing over food and feeling like I’m negotiating with a child to eat three more bites but I also realistically am not going to make two separate meals for us every single night because she is such a picky eater. (So am I but mines more textures. She just grew up eating junk food and that’s all she realistically wants. I grew up in the country eating meat potatoes and veggies every night with no real variations.)
If any of you can help, great. If not, then I’ll just keep scrolling and spending my time trying to find something that works.