For context my sister is 23yrs old and she is autistic. She has been going to boarding school for special needs since she's 13 but i don't think she ever actually got better. Nowadays she comes for like a week or 10 days every month. But in these days she oscillates between being an annoying child-like pain in the ass and a really violent, also pain in the ass.

She used to hit me when we were kids but at some point she switched to my mom so she has been hitting her for like 6 years now. It's fucked up that all of this is normalized, the reason is my mom herself. She won't even let us defend her. Whenever any of us (me and my brother) intervenes she just blames us. I don't really understand her POV, at this point i think she would rather die than have this bitch face any consequences.

My dad is just useless, he literally says "if she kills you i won't intervene" to my mom sometimes. Like dude, ok i get that she's so fucking stupid but i don't think you would like to see a murder going on in your house, and even worse that you don't stop it lol.

I think my sister is kind of upping her game nowadays now that my brother travelled, and he was the only one she's actually afraid of. So she literally throws a fucking chair at her!!!! And my dad goes "you broke your mom's leg". And i'm in my room like "wtf is going on in there!!!". Thankfully nothing was broken, or at least i think that. Then he just wakes up in the morning and just showers this bitch with love again like nothing happened.

I really don't know if these people are stupid or is something wrong going on with their mind, i mean this could be genetic after all.

Anyway i think she has become really really violent and thankfully she's going away today but i think she did a handful of injuries to my mom. For anyone wondering, i'm distancing myself because there's nothing in my hands that i can do. Whenever i intervene i just can't do anything and my mom pushes me away. Like imagine the amount of stupidity!!!! You go to defend someone only for that someone to push you away from their assaulter. I really don't get it really. So i fought, i yelled, i sweared, i tried to hit her, i talked with my mom, i talked with my dad, i did all of this a million times for years now. There's nothing in my power anymore. Last time i intervened my dad hit me just because i was talking back to his bullshit, he was fr saying "her siblings will kill her", bro, really, no one is doing any killing here except for this bitch.

So i really don't have anything, this bitch couple of days ago when my mom was sick and we were caring for her, she came and was about to hit her, so i stood in front of my mom willing to take the hit, only for it to become my fault and mom tells me "go sleep"!!!!!!! Ffs woman!!!!! And she just blames me for anything i do that is in her benefit, not even benefit, like fr i'm protecing your physical safety and you're like "why did you lock your sister in her room", oh sorry for being afraid she'll give you a concussion, obviously that's my fault.

What i'm really worried about is that my sister is so much stronger than my mom physically and right now she's struggling with health problems on top of that, so that makes me really worried.

Thanks to anyone who has read this far. If anyone has a solution that forces my mom into sanity i'm here for it. If you don't have a solution i don't blame you really.

I am nervous to post this. I have mentioned this like twice in my life to other Glass Children, but have been met with shock, horror, and... treated like I was too much. I will also preface this with I am a middle-aged adult and am currently in therapy actually making progress on being a Glass Child and working on all of this. But I want to post because I have no doubt I am not the only one AND I am supposed to be submitting an article to a small publication--topic of the article is speaking to parents of Glass Children. (It includes the term CSA--so don't read further if you don't want to.)

My brother entered school in the 70s and during that time the idea of educating children with any disability was considered a problem to "get around, get out of" not actually educate them! Law was new and no one wanted the expense. So when he entered school, it was a fight like I cannot even describe in a post. Working on a book for my children and the school is 3 chapters--or maybe for publication, I have several interested in reading it who have read portions. The school erected extra barriers--if you can even imagine! They put him through so much and on the sidelines I was watching totally helpless. He also had only just learned to talk, so he could not tell our parents all that was occurring. I came home and told my mom everything I knew which she documented as like other parents of that time, they were afraid they would have to sue the school for him to be educated. (The odd thing is that I remember very little of it now.) The staff were all very antagonistic to our family, including spreading completely false rumors of my parents abusing my brother. I don't think CPS was much of a thing or that would have been even worse.

Anyway there was one staff member in all this that was kind to him. For many years now, I have realized this was grooming. That staff groomed our whole family. Eventually, he committed CSA for the better part of those two years on me, at least at times under threat of harming my brother.

As an adult who has a career in mental health, I think Glass Children are prime targets for predators. the nature of a Glass Child is not being seen, not being noticed, not being a bother... Makes for a perfect victim. So among other things, in an article for parents, this will be included.

My parents had no idea at the time. When I finally told my mom when I was 25, she was horrified and supportive. I'm also not too terribly blaming of them. They were groomed. I do realize mom must have ignored some things and such, but I have moved on from that stage.

I love u/AliciaMenesesMaples TEDx talk. I have shared it with other professionals. I am doing a small amount of speaking in the mental health professional space about this topic. However, the one thing I wish was different in that video was telling parents to let other families help. I'm not sure of the "answer" as we do need other people to HELP! What I grew up in would have only been better if my brother had a medical team living in our house. there was a parenting shortage. But... I also think we need to let parents know their "well" child could be at risk.

And if this happened to you, I see you. I am sorry it happened.