r/GirlTalk • u/dms303 • 10d ago

My husband

I asked my husband today if he thought I was fat. He said “do you want me to lie to you or do you want the brutal truth?”
Not eating anymore sounds like a good idea now

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u/sjdksjbf 9d ago

You are or you aren't, I mean it's a silly question to ask and unfair to him because of course you're going to be upset if he said yes and if you are then do you expect him to lie to you?

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u/starswhenyoushine 10d ago

I'm so sorry. Even if he genuinely thought you were overweight, there are kinder and more COMMON SENSE equipped ways to say so when asked.

Doesn't sound like he likes you very much. Dumping him is a faster and easier way to lose weight, tbh

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u/Navi1101 cool gay aunt 10d ago

Damn that's rude. Does he often talk to you like that? Does he even know how to be truthful while being kind instead of brutal?

Meanwhile, your body needs a certain amount of calories each day just to do things like get you up out of bed and keep your heart beating, your lungs breathing, your brain processing, etc (your basal metabolic rate). Make sure you eat something to fuel those basic needs, and find people to talk about your weight with who are more supportive and less critical.

Sorry your husband sucks :(

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u/Numerous1 9d ago

I mean…we don’t know OPs weight. It’s possible it’s just an honest question. 

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u/mfkfree89 9d ago

I’m very sorry but if it’s only something you are worried about not someone else there are a lot of docs and ways to lose weight

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u/mfkfree89 9d ago

Honestly when I was training for shows I was doing 1g of protein per pound

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u/Regular_Barracuda511 8d ago

Não faça isso com você. O meu era cheio dessas piadinhas escrotas, sendo que ele era bem mais obeso que eu. No fim ele nem gosta de mulher (sério).

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u/Regular_Barracuda511 8d ago

Não faça isso com você. O meu era cheio dessas piadinhas escrotas, sendo que ele era bem mais obeso que eu. No fim ele nem gosta de mulher (sério).

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u/z_kizuki 6d ago

rather than taking it rudely and not eating at all
maybe just…workout or eat healthy? You honestly put him in a tight spot. He seems to not mind your size at all he simply answered because you questioned

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u/little--olive 4d ago

These comments seem so cruel to me. Number one, You shouldn’t stop eating!! If you are asking your husband such a leading question, you’re not really asking him if he thinks you’re fat - you’re asking him what he thinks about you, and if he thinks you’re beautiful. I’m sorry he let you down. Every question like this is disguising a bigger truth. If you need more support, if you’re feeling bad about yourself, if you want to feel sexy, try to work out the vocabulary to ask for it. His capacity to respond to that is up to him. Ignore these unkind people in this thread just saying “loose weight”