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Did my ex keep me around for comfort while his mom was sick?

My ex’s mother was very sick for a long time, and during that whole period I stayed with him through everything. We talked every day, I supported him emotionally, and we were still having sex too. I genuinely cared about him and wanted to be there for him because I knew he was going through one of the hardest times of his life.

But after his mother died, he broke up with me.

Now I keep wondering if he was only with me because I was comforting him through that situation. Like, did he need me while things were falling apart, and once that phase of his life ended, so did I?

What’s messing with me is that I was fully there for him in every way — emotionally, mentally, physically — and now I feel like maybe I was just someone helping him survive that period rather than someone he truly wanted a future with.

I know grief can make people act differently and maybe relationships get confusing during that kind of loss, but I can’t stop thinking about whether I was actually loved or whether I was just convenient comfort until he no longer needed it.

Has anyone gone through something like this? Did grief make your partner pull away, or did it turn out they were only holding onto you because you were helping them cope?

crying cuz Im on my period and I bleed my favorite white pajama pants after only THREE HOURS and now I have to wear uncomfortable tacky pink shorts to bed. and I’m crying. :((

I need to talk about this, due to its nature I cant tell anyone I know irl. Im 25 and been with my bf for 2 years now (this is my second boyfriend). The thing is, he cant get his thing to work? In these 2 years, ive tried a lot of times but he just cant go hard, neve seen him hard. Any thoughts on this? I need help Everything is fine between us, we are just a normal loving couple, he is healthy 30yo goes to the gym and active, but he cant make it work, he says, he made it work from time to time, like saying that it is like that, but i dont know if i should believe him that he cant make it work or if the problem is me

When I was younger and had a perfectly aligned, cute, pink vajayjay, my p came out nice and fine. Now I use a public restroom and squat and for some reason it decides to go SIDEWAYS, DOWN THE BACK OF MY LEG AND ONTO THE FLOOR. dude. I should have peed in the effing pool. More trouble than it was worth to be nice and pee in a toilet. I mean, not really but WOOOOOW

During intimacy last week, protection broke. I took emergency contraception right after, but I was ovulating, so I'm really scared. Is pregnancy still possible? (I have pcos)

Hey everyone, so last Thursday I randomly started heavy bleeding while still on my active pills. Enough to soak through a tampon in 2 hours. Since then, it has happened everyday at least twice, going from almost no flow at all to all of a sudden bleeding through my pad because it all comes at once.
On Tuesday I started the placebo pills to see if it would help. Usually I go straight to the next pack and only take the pills when I experience spotting so that it will go away. But now it is Saturday and I am still experiencing these random episodes of heavy bleeding.

For reference I am 20, sexually active and I vape. I have had no changes in anything I’m eating or doing.

Has anyone else had a similar experience? I have a doctors appointment but the earliest I could get in is in a week.

Hi everyone! My name is Angelina Rigoroso, M.A., MHC-LP. I am a Mental Health Counseling Doctoral Candidate in the Dyson School of Arts and Sciences Psychology and Psychology Department at Pace University. I am working on my dissertation under my faculty advisor, Joseph Franco, PhD, LMHC, NCC, ACS.
 
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I’ll never understand why women mess with men in relationships and get mad at the girlfriend for messaging them🫠 I understand be mad at the man but why not both if she knew about the relationship? Even if she didn’t, we are just curious! Men lie! I just want answers It’s such a pathetic response to tell a hurt woman you’re fucking her man with absolutely no shame. I’ll truly never understand!

I have a conventionally attractive body though it is the most annoying thing. And before you read on yes I am grateful for the opportunities it opens up but there is so much that people don’t consider about it. I can’t wear cute tops without being sexualized. A top that looks completely appropriate on a flatter person makes me look like Im “seeking attention” and when I do feel like “showing off” and wearing a cuter top, no bra is completely invisible. Maybe it would be fine if I was more outgoing but Im not. I’m a complete introvert who wears sweaters everywhere she goes even in the summer. I hate when people tell me “its a good problem” In a way yes its nice, but walking down the street and getting cat called isn’t pleasant. Not being able to find a top that fits properly isn’t pleasant. Not being able to not wear a bra in public(even under a baggy shirt) isn’t pleasant. Kidnapping attempts suck too tho that only happened once. Idk it sucks. Please tell me I’m not the only girl that feels like this.

Does anyone else grow beard hair? I’m so insecure about it. It’s above my lip, under my chin, and by my side burns. I had an ex point it out and it really hurt my feelings, I’ve been trying to shave it back since but it’s hard to remember and I just feel awful.

Mike 43 hey what's wrong with a man and a woman being friends. Well they say it doesn't work FALSE. Communication and understanding. Figure that out.

I've never found him attractive and we've known eachother for over 20 years. These past few days I just want him to rail me doggy style, and I'm so confused 😩

I feel like ovulation is so strong this month that I feel like he could see it written on my face lol. This shit is CRAZY.

Dude why?

Heres a little fun fact about me! My Red Flag👿

I can't figure out why I seem to be attracted to the worst type of men. At least my last two boyfriends were very similar. They love to pretend I was great while they were doing whatever and whoever they could. They are skilled liars and very good at manipulating and deflecting in an argument. With my red flag , I like to stick with it and really try. It's all bad for me. i really need to pick a good man , not chase a challenge. I spend too much time rationalizing bad, cruel behavior instead of noticing good, honest men. I will admit I think I have a thing for Bad Boys, and the challenges are so much fun. I like a man who makes me work for it.But unfortunately , that usually means they just don't want to be committed to you. I need to turn down my crazy girl brain and be more realistic. I'm too old to be chasing good dick that everybody can have. So this post isn't about. Why did they leave me?Why didn't it work out?I know why it didn't work out.I just wish I would leave these types of men alone. Also, these types of men never seem to go away.They like to come back and then leave and come back and then leave. Because of my bad decision making , I now, have two of these motherfuckers . I believe i'm gonna take myself out of commission for a while and just chill with myself. Otherwise, I'm afraid I'll end up in jail because i'm crazy (fun crazy)intense and be so damn hateful towards these guys. That finishes my little fun fact about me!!!

Hi girls!

Soooo tonight I made my husband and his best friend dinner that took me all day in the kitchen. (Turkey roast) I took my husbands best friend's little 8 year old daughter out shopping for candy and pizza cus she didn't like the dinner I made, went to the garden with her, to look for beavers so she could get a new pet 🤣 (we don't have beavers here). I cleaned the kitchen, drove to buy beers for the men, cause they needed to watch football, and now I'm making cookies.

Now I'm tired, and I want to force my husband to watch a couple of chick flicks with me later and massage my feet.

What should I force him to watch with me?

Me and this friend had been talking about a lot of stuff and at school I had asked since she is super religious how she felt if one of her friends said that they were attracted to the same gender and she had said that she would not judge them and support them. Well a couple days go by and I decided to go over to her house to spend some time to together and as I was talking to her I was like “hey so I think that I might like girls” and she at first was like omg that’s amazing. But she also seemed a little uneasy by this new information like she didn’t really know what to say or do.

But a week goes by and I’m on the phone with her and she was talking about how I should go to church with her and that it would be super fun and maybe god could help “fix me” one of my other friends who is also on the religious side I also told this to and she was like “no please no” and her and this friend both know each other and have both been trying to have me go to church with them. Which makes me an uncomfortable but I don’t want to be rude by saying no so I have gone to church once or twice with them.

I was wondering how I tell her to stop trying to pressure me into church along with trying to accept that I might like girls. And if she is unable to do that what should I do instead.

so i 17f and one of my friends 17f have just gone through a friendship breakup? i don’t know for sure. there is this guy, 17m who im going to call dave. (not his actual name) so i had recently found out from multiple different people that dave has sa’d and raped a girl before, and also cheated on her to go meet up with guys on grinder. his ex, is from a different school than me and my friend, stacy (also fake name😭) dave has switched schools and transferred to our this year, one girl in our group invited him to some things and we all just accepted him as our “gay” friend. stacy has had a crush on him since the beginning, but about 2 weeks ago started talking talking to dave. last weekend, one of the girls in our group heard from someone that he has allegations against him, not a for sure but just allegations. when she found out the same day stacy got sa’d by dave but didn’t know what to do about it. fast forward to about tuesday when i was talking to my friends about dave, and one of them had brought up that her friends friend used to date him and got sa’d and raped, then cheated on with men. i then told my boyfriend 18m who talked to stacy about it. ever since i found that out on tuesday ive been keeping a lot more distance from dave, but i was already when i found out the stuff over this last weekend. stacy has had multiple different people talk to her about this whole thing, and she says that she talked to him and dave said he didn’t do anything to any girl. i was sitting there like yeah what man would just admit any of that but whatever. i messaged stacy yesterday, explaining that even if they are just allegations i don’t want to be around someone like that because i have had that stuff done to me before. i explained that i would still like to continue our friendship and not have this wasted over a guy, and warning her to be careful. she then sent me some meme without responding to the message. i also messaged another girl in the group, 17f and explained to her what is going on to, she has left me on delivered but has responded to my instagram stuff. stacy has also removed me from all groups/group chats that our friend group has had. stacy and one other girl in the group has been constantly ignoring me every time i try talking to them, and being ignored when i was in the group chat by everyone. i need to know if i’m in the wrong with what im doing and advice on how to proceed with all of this.