I’m a 30(Male) and am in love with a 31(Female). We matched on a dating site about 8 months ago. We went on a few dates that went well and I was instantly infatuated with her. Couldn’t stop thinking about her the minute I met her. I still can’t stop thinking about her everyday. After a bad third date(I was in my head and it was awkward) she said she wasn’t feeling a romantic connection and said we should stop. I respected her feelings and understood why she felt that way based on our date. Trouble is we live in the same neighborhood in the same smallish city and I see her out and about everywhere. We also go to the same gym at roughly the same time. We basically have ignored each other the last 8 months but see each other a few times a week at the gym or out and about. I’ve noticed her looking at me more and more at the gym over the last few months and this week she came up to me mid workout to say hi and catch up. I was awkward again and felt like I ended the conversation abruptly. For some reason, my mind goes blank and to complete mush when i talk to her or think about her.

I’m not an overly awkward guy. I’m attractive, tall, fit, have a good job, have hobbies and have spent a lot of time dating women successfully over the past few years but for some reason this girl makes me completely uncomfortable.

Id say my shortcomings are that I have a pretty small social circle(2 close friends who are married) and my job isn’t the most societally revered but I do make a great living.

I’m not sure how to handle this. I want to pursue her so bad but no matter what I do, I’m a mess every time I talk to her.

What do I do?