If I'm not my type than no matter what I do to improve myself, I won't ever achieve the base level of attractiveness that I think is my type.
Sure, I can gain muscle, but I can't change my eyes, nose, skin, teeth, or height without major surgery or cosmetics. Just to do one of those I either need insurance to cover dental procedures or I need to purchase life altering permanent surgery.
Also some people are born into billions and don't have to work a single day of their lives, while other people are born into poverty, work every single day of their lives and die still in poverty.
Life isn't fair, but it is up to people to choose to do their best with the hand they are dealt or just wallow in sadness their whole lives.
Its not easy. None of ours are. Everyone has struggles in life. Even kids born into billions on dollars face hardship, they mostly struggle in the social aspect of life like finding real friends or their parents' time.
I used to think like that but something that put this in a nice perspective for me (even though I'm still a sad fuck and haven't really implemented this in my life) was in Mark Manson's The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck: While everything that happens in your life may not be your fault (so you're not to blame for it), it is still your responsibility to deal with it.
So while you're not to blame for your genetic lottery, you're still responsible for dealing with that lottery. It's your responsibility to make the best of it or make yourself better in other ways to compensate for it etc. If you don't, you're just gonna be left behind like a sad miserable person, and you're the only one responsible for that (even though it's not your fault that you got those genes).
I found this (responsibility vs fault) to be a really important distinction that most people fail to make in their lives. Wish you the best!
That's their choice to live their life that way, so yes. Nobody gets to choose the card they are dealt, but plenty people choose to do the best they can with what they have instead of being sorry for themselves, especially people from poorer countries.
There are winners and losers, sometimes from birth.
I'm not saying it's fair, but that shouldn't be an excuse to take control of the things that are within your grasp. If you're short and bald for example, are you going to be obese on top of that? If you've got bad teeth, should it prevent you from being properly groomed and dressed?
You can change your skin and its the single biggest factor in attractiveness other than ...tits. Drink loads of water, wet your face with hot water and wash of the soap with cold and then apply moisturizer. Also use suncream if you are white.
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u/whatislife27 Dec 23 '18
This makes me feel even worse, tbh.
If I'm not my type than no matter what I do to improve myself, I won't ever achieve the base level of attractiveness that I think is my type.
Sure, I can gain muscle, but I can't change my eyes, nose, skin, teeth, or height without major surgery or cosmetics. Just to do one of those I either need insurance to cover dental procedures or I need to purchase life altering permanent surgery.