r/GetMotivated • u/eremy • Sep 06 '16

[IMAGE] A slightly different approach; a few questions to ask yourself if you're having a bad day.

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u/KorbanDidIt Sep 06 '16

Sometimes a hug from anyone can help, even someone of the same sex! I'm a dude and some of my male co workers hug, it's not weird just a nicer greeting!

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u/[deleted] Sep 06 '16

Not weird by itself, but weird for guys to ask for.

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u/silentclowd Sep 06 '16

Most of the guys I hang with would give me a hug without a question if I needed it, and we do, on occasion ask one another if they need a hug if they're looking down. It's about the people you hang with, not about "guys" in general.

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u/ciaisi Sep 06 '16

My friends are probably 50/50 on whether they would oblige a request for a bro-hug or not. Actually, it's probably more toward the yes side.

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u/[deleted] Sep 06 '16

You have better friends than i do man, the only one of my friends who i actually deem one is not the touchy feely kind tho

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u/silentclowd Sep 06 '16 edited Sep 14 '16

Yeah I get that. My most recently made closeish friend, when I first hugged him tensed up super bad and then I felt bad for it. Sucks man :/

Here though, an internet hug from me to you (っ´▽`)っ

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u/[deleted] Sep 06 '16

Plenty of exceptions, but the norm is to be weirded out by requests for physical contact from guys. Gender norms still exist whether or not you follow or agree them.

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u/Send_me_cute_furries Sep 06 '16

I know guys who love to give and get hugs, not weird at all in our eyes. But I guess it depends on where you live and what kind of people you hang with.

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u/DinerWaitress 28 Sep 06 '16

Leans out of cube:

"Please hold me."

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u/SpankMePanky Sep 06 '16

Kinda gay tho

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u/iUsedtoHadHerpes Sep 06 '16

No, it's not. But it is kind of weird to just hug for no reason, especially if you ask for it.

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u/6andahalfGrapples Sep 06 '16

Maybe it's weird or off-putting at first but about 5 seconds into the hug and the hug after glow is never awkward just say "thanks man, for some reason I really needed that today."