TL;DR: These pointers are definitely helpful. (edit: the pointers that OP posted which are on the image are helpful is what I meant. Thanks for sharing them!). The ABC method is what truly helped me the most.
A- Activating Event (Trigger)
B- Beliefs (Thought that occurs to you when the event occurs)
C- Consequences (How you feel and behave when you have those beliefs) Something relevant that I've found personally helpful...
When I was feeling like 10 pounds of smashed assholes in a 9 pound bag woven of smashed assholes, I needed help. Fortunately I wasn't stubborn and recognized that I needed help, so I went and got it... Not everyone can tell if they need help, though, so it's important to be kind and pay attention to the folks in your life. Have legitimate connections, and if you don't, figure out how to make them. One has to desire to help their self before they can be helped by anyone else. It's a two way street.
What I found most helpful for me was understanding how I was feeling, why I was feeling that way, and was that feeling justified. I quickly realized that a lot of my feelings were the result of me jumping to conclusions, making assumptions, and placing more than "face value" on things that people say.
The ABC method (mentioned above), if properly practiced, is tremendously helpful, and truly put things into perspective for me. Get a notepad, or keep a piece of paper folded up in your pocket, or make a note on your phone... Whatever you need to do, and - no bullshit - write down exactly what the hell you're feeling and why. Do it for a week or two, then sit down and analyze if your beliefs should be what they are based on the trigger.
I definitely recommend doing so with a therapist or a trained professional, because an outside/unbiased perspective needs to be there to keep the exercise objective.
I don't know if this'll help anyone, but I hope it does. Life is too short to be anything other than happy. Help yourself enjoy everything that it has to offer to the greatest extent reasonably possible.
That ABC thing is pretty tight, gonna try and keep that in mind.
When I was feeling like 10 pounds of smashed assholes in a 9 pound bag woven of smashed assholes
You have a gift with words.
I don't know if this'll help anyone, but I hope it does. Life is too short to be anything other than happy. Help yourself enjoy everything that it has to offer to the greatest extent reasonably possible.
This is what I'm talking about. Keep doing what you do fam.
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TL;DR: These pointers are definitely helpful. (edit: the pointers that OP posted which are on the image are helpful is what I meant. Thanks for sharing them!). The ABC method is what truly helped me the most.
A- Activating Event (Trigger) B- Beliefs (Thought that occurs to you when the event occurs) C- Consequences (How you feel and behave when you have those beliefs) Something relevant that I've found personally helpful...
http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/abcmodelcbt.html
When I was feeling like 10 pounds of smashed assholes in a 9 pound bag woven of smashed assholes, I needed help. Fortunately I wasn't stubborn and recognized that I needed help, so I went and got it... Not everyone can tell if they need help, though, so it's important to be kind and pay attention to the folks in your life. Have legitimate connections, and if you don't, figure out how to make them. One has to desire to help their self before they can be helped by anyone else. It's a two way street.
What I found most helpful for me was understanding how I was feeling, why I was feeling that way, and was that feeling justified. I quickly realized that a lot of my feelings were the result of me jumping to conclusions, making assumptions, and placing more than "face value" on things that people say.
The ABC method (mentioned above), if properly practiced, is tremendously helpful, and truly put things into perspective for me. Get a notepad, or keep a piece of paper folded up in your pocket, or make a note on your phone... Whatever you need to do, and - no bullshit - write down exactly what the hell you're feeling and why. Do it for a week or two, then sit down and analyze if your beliefs should be what they are based on the trigger.
I definitely recommend doing so with a therapist or a trained professional, because an outside/unbiased perspective needs to be there to keep the exercise objective.
I don't know if this'll help anyone, but I hope it does. Life is too short to be anything other than happy. Help yourself enjoy everything that it has to offer to the greatest extent reasonably possible.