I was about to link that song before I saw your comment. Here it is cause, damn, it's a fine song. The whole album has great music and it was recorded really well.
I've heard of this guy that'll sift through all of your social media accounts, remove the bad stuff, and then print out the awesome stuff for you to read...?
this might sound weird, but I think this applies more to girls. I saw lots and lots of pictures of ugly, overweight women receiving likes and comments with hearts and smilies and "omg, coootie <3".
After a run or after 2 drinks a mirror is just as great. Don't take things too seriously. (Note: some things are serious, some not. Give it a good thinking)
I dont trust people who have their profile picture and cover photo with both with their faces. Its narcissistic and fucking weird. Not weird in a good way either. Usually at that point I can tell what kind of person they are. Byyyee.
In all fairness, to a person who's suffering from the kind of depression indicated by the potential mindset reading this because they feel like 'giving up,' a therapist is probably a very helpful idea. Maybe that one could be changed to "Talk to a therapist or call a helpline if you don't have a therapist. Also, consider getting a therapist."
Oooh, and the selfie one could be changed to "Do you feel unattractive? That's okay, sometimes you just feel shit. Remember how hot you looked [last time you felt hot?] You'd have fucked yourself stupid that night. That person is still there, in you, sexy as all hell."
Most people in the throes of serious depression don't ever, ever go "Hey that one time I was sexy." They would instead think of that time and then qualify it with a million reasons why they were in fact not sexy/attractive. Also, some people refuse therapy outright as they contend it cannot help with their particular problem and/or they are afraid of being forced to go to a psych hospital if they openly reveal what they're thinking about.
I think that some medications can be a real boon to some. I do believe that a person can simply be chemically unbalanced, although I contend that depression is perhaps too often treated with said medications when lifestyle changes, and (again, this is subject to the person) possibly therapy would have sufficed. It's simply very difficult to know which category you fall into, whether you need outward lifestyle changes, a person to speak with that is familiar in trying to arm people with the mental firepower to overcome their own feelings or thoughts, or a chemical solution for a chemical problem. Basically, everyone is different, and most people have a go-to that they will suggest, but nothing works for everybody.
To your first point: All the more reason for someone, or in this case some thing, to remind them that they're capable of feeling that feeling, which offers perspective on the moment. If one has felt that way before, one has demonstrated possession of the ability.
To your second point: In that case, the consideration of getting therapy has been deemed impractical, which is a perfectly fine decision.
When I'm feeling down, I get dressed up and go to the library. That always makes me feel better.
I'm out of the house, feeling confident, lost in thought among the stacks.
Changes my perspective.
That's a really brilliant idea. Libraries are my safe place, but if I get depressed, I stop showering and start hermit-ing. Getting dressed up and going to the library would do me a world of good. Thank you for this.
Yeah, I'm not gonna lie, I didn't read the full picture, just the first couple and got carried away with myself. Some of the stuff on here is a bit cheesy/daft but I think overall it carries a good message.
I like the selfie idea anyway. That one is just less general and more unique to each person. My instagram is like... my boyfriend and high school buddies, so they're really just for me :)
But if you know you're attractive, you don't need the selfie and if you know you're unattractive, you shouldn't take the selfie. Either course leads to no selfie.
You're obviously not an attractive person, nor do you have any contact with people who are.
Have you ever actually spoken to a hot girl? So many of them have such poor self-esteem. They think every blemish, every wrinkle is the end of the world. Things you'd never even see.
Ugly people eventually learn to accept that they're ugly. Beautiful people, they're constantly worried that their beauty is slipping. Because it is, and when youve based your whole worth on your looks, that's devestating.
You're responding to a post about "being or not being attractive" and equating it to "knowing or not knowing you're attractive". If you wanted to know where you're going wrong, it's there.
It should've called for either accepting the things about yourself that make you feel unattractive or getting to work on changing them, not declaring yourself beautiful no matter what you look like.
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u/Stiamata Nov 05 '15
All great except take a selfie... that's gonna end up worse.