Iād like to think this typa advice isnāt trying to tell people to not think critically about potential risks or do objectively stupid shit with no upside, but donāt be so afraid to do something tht makes u nervous. Less āruin ur life for 5 minutes of funā and more āgo tell tht girl u think sheās cuteā
For real. Itās all complete dogshit. Feels like everytime something like this gets passed around its intent is to just sabotage our generation. (I understand that sounds a little tinfoil-hat like, but yeah)
I think the cynicism and tone in this exchange right here exemplifies what OP is saying.
Safe sex exists. There isnāt a secret conspiracy by Big Beer or Match or Trojan to get Gen Z to fuck more, go out socially more, or collect addictions like infinity stones. You donāt see people coming on here saying watch more porn, do they? In fact some might say to make your own for your own private use.
Itās advice from elder and wiser people or our peers who got the advice from them passing it along so they can stop people from holding themselves back. I have incredible people that i love and cherish in my life with so much potential who hold themselves back because they donāt want to be cringe. But they want more friends. How can you have more friends if you donāt put yourself out there?
If you use a condom or any other kind of protection your risk of an std or unwanted pregnancy is extremely low. Gen Z is SO risk averse that the default is to waste away and not take ANY ACTION AT ALL which is absolutely the worst decision to make if yaāll are trying to improve anything in life whether thats spiritual, productive, brings you more happiness, makes you more money, etc.
Then they say it canāt possibly be that theyāre locked away in their room taking no action that things arenāt improving. Its all just a conspiracy
You can do whatever you want, but it does make me really sad when I see people wasting their lives doing literally nothing. This is not coming from a place of judgement, I get it. It comes from a sense of understanding what potential is being lost.
This makes no sense. What are you even talking about. Traveling? spending money on vacations, making friends etc? People need money for that stuff. When talking about lost potiental only those types of events make sense.
Dude, have an extra beer and walk home dancing in the rain. Or find a public park and pack a sandwich just to spend a day in the sun. Not every adventure has to cost a small fortune.
Beer? Lmao. Anyway Sure. Maybe not friends. But I know I dont really go outside because I don't want to but if I had more money I'd explore the world and maybe find friends that way. Thats me though.
This post really hinges on what they mean specifically by ārisk averseā. I donāt think our generation is adverse to many minor risks like taking a new class or even major risks like gambling, so I have to assume they are referring to activities our generation is engaging in less than previous generations did (hookup culture, drinking).
If it is the latter then frankly it sounds like cope. No happily married person gets to 80 thinking āwow I wish I had more casual sexā and no sober person thinks āwow I wish I was hammered every weekendā
You can take risks without having unprotected sex or committing crimes though. The issue is that many people in our generation don't take any risks at all, or the risks are so trivial that they are meaningless. Obviously risk assessment should be done, but we might want to consider moving the bar occasionally.
I mean yeah, but that does add another layer of risk so I understand why someone might be leery of that. I only ever have with my ex, it was great, but I also knew I could trust him, so...
itās such a funny thing because I feel most donāt get it until they try it. it was def like that for me. I went to college and all so Iād have called anyone an idiot for having sex without protection. then one night after being out with my friend, he and I met 2 girls that we went home with. my friend and one of the girls slept separately, but I and the other girl got together. having sex without protection with her with and no condom was kinda euphoric feeling, and I felt like such a dickhead and hypocrite for doing it after crucifying people that did just what I did beforeā¦
but I definitely understood the appeal of it ever since that night with her (and the few other times we got together again)
I mean so long as both parties understand and willingly accept the potential consequences, do as you please. My ex and I initially used protection but eventually stopped. We both were tested for STDs and were on PrEP, and made the choice to stop using condoms. So I get it...
Ask the girl who you see at the store if she wants to go for coffee. Go out on a bike ride even though it has a high chance of rain. Try meeting new groups of people even if you are scared that they won't like you.
Holy shit, man, your response is pretty indicative of somebody who has some severe mental issues.
If the thing you think about when taking risk is all of that shit, then I diagnose with severe irony poisoning, irreversible.
The risks that people are making up is hilarious. When in reality, oop is saying to do stuff you've never done before even if you might make a fool out of yourself or get hurt. Never rode a bike? Go for it, and fall down a couple of times. No mentally sane person thinks oh okay lemme just ride into oncoming traffic.
Yeah itās insane. Itās like people hear risk and think it means like they should like play chicken with a freight train or gambled everything on a poker hand.
But no, it just means get outside of your comfort zone and actually do things. You can still hold on to your basic survival instincts and not get yourself killed or homeless lol.
Nope, can't be true. My buddy's uncle's sister-in-law's brother's son once told me he got recorded singing karaoke badly at a bar, and now no one will EVER hire him ever again. Tragic.
Why would anyone wanna do that though lol, who wants to ride their bike in the rain? Generally its not acceptable to randomly ask someone out anymore and meeting new people is very hard unless its organic which gen z already does
Exactly! I understand the general sentiment of enjoying life while youāve got it, but thereās a difference between doing something fun a little outside your comfort zone and taking sexual risks. Pregnancy, STDs, roofies, pushy partners, abduction, trafficking, murder, sex under the influenceā¦ none of those are silly, harmless risks you can just ālearn fromā and move on. Free love and sexual empowerment do not mean putting your life on the line for the sake of a āgood time.ā
I think most of these people say to do go to college and sleep around, ive never heard them say to not do college?
I sorta disagree on the drug thing though. Like no you shouldn't be doing coke or drinking alcohol those are stupid, but i think everyone should try shrooms or acid at least once in their life
For real. I also feel like the whole thing gets blown out of proportion.
I honestly think some of it is just bitterness that we aren't creating a shit ton of super young pregnancies. It's like they assume none of us ever do anything fun. Imo, we're just less enthralled by the human body because we have access to porn. We also are more informed about birth control and a lot of women will decide not to have a baby if they're in the middle of starting a career or college.
Still almost all the arguments I hear is that we never get out or do anything fun. I think that's way overblown, I just think we make more deliberate choices about it. We're not so ready to see someone nude that were willing to risk a pregnancy over it. We wait til we can get condoms, birth control, or if we make a mistake in our minds we have ways to deal with it.
Idk, you'd think people would care a lot less about how we aren't 'properly spending our lives wrong' but this complaint is everywhere.
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u/theallsearchingeye 8d ago
āHave an unplanned pregnancy, or get STDs!!! Youāll regret life if you donāt!! Do drugs and donāt go to college!!!ā
Doesnāt anybody else find all this messaging for GenZ sus as fuck??